John A. Santangelo

John A. Santangelo, 78 of Rochester, passed away on Monday, March 23, 2020 after a brief illness. He was the loving husband of Ann E. (Jehnke) Santangelo. To whom he shared 53 years of marriage

            Born in Plainfield, NJ, a son of the late Louis F. and Pauline D. (Russo) Santangelo, he was a long time resident of Southcoast. John was a St. Peter’s High School and received his Master’s degree from New Jersey Institute Technology. He was employed as Director of Process Development for Johnson and Johnson for 30 years, retiring in 1996.

            John enjoyed woodworking, cribbage, research and technology; he was an avid reader and loved to share his knowledge to help others.

            In addition to his loving wife, he is survived by three sons, Rev. Christopher Santangelo of CA, Michael Santangelo of East Freetown and Scott Santangelo and his wife Kristen of Assonet; two daughters, Marybeth Bellefeville of East Freetown and Kathleen Allen and her husband Scott of Bridgewater; seven grandchildren, Jacob, Heather, Alexander, Charles, Emily, Daniel and Kora; a sister, Rosemarie Bersch of New Jersey and many nieces and nephews.

            Arrangements are in the care of Rock Funeral Home, 1285 Ashley Blvd., New Bedford, MA. “Due to current restrictions on public gatherings, John’s services will be private for immediate family.” To leave a note of condolence: www.rock-funeralhome.com

Atlantis Drive Property Bid Approved

            The March 24 emergency meeting of the Marion Board of Selectmen served to update the March 19 meeting with new developments and information. It was the second straight Marion Board of Selectmen meeting held via live video-conferencing using the Go to Meeting web program.

            A key development on Tuesday, March 24, was the board’s approval of the sale of the town’s Atlantis Drive property to Marion Antiques, subject to successful negotiations.

            Town Administrator Jay McGrail credited Alan Minard with the in-depth work it took to put together the request for proposal (RFP) and preparation for the Board of Selectmen to consider.

            The evaluation team made of the Board of Selectmen, McGrail and Minard determined that Marion Antiques met the minimum requirements of the RFP. Although there were a couple of “advantageous” responses to the question of the town’s rating of such a deal, the majority according to McGrail felt that all requirements were met by the “highly advantageous” evaluation.

            “Our game plan is to move this forward pretty quickly,” said McGrail, suggesting a goal for before the end of the fiscal year (early June).

            Selectman John Waterman said the town now needs to establish a timeline for a new Department of Public Works facility, one that cannot be directly tied into the proceeds of the Atlantis Drive property sale – he said that money goes to the town’s “free cash” account – but Marion ought to have a goal that by the fall town meeting it will have a price tag for a new DPW to take to the town for approval.

            The first step in that process, said Waterman and McGrail, is to seek approval at spring town meeting for the $150,000 in funding to move the project forward.

            On March 19, the town declared a shutdown of all municipal buildings through March 30. On March 24, McGrail recommended an extension of that timeline to April 7 in keeping with the order signed on March 23 by Governor Baker.

            Waterman recommended the matter remain subject to review so Marion can reserve the right to alter its plan. The motion passed.

            The town hall staffing plan remains for non-essential employees to stay at home. Some functions of government are critical so McGrail is asking staff to continue checking emails and voicemails on an hourly basis. “Some staff are coming into town hall to keep the critical functions of government moving,” he said.

            Having noticed a person knocking on the door to the Town House, Waterman suggested notes be taped on the door. McGrail said there are two notices already outside the door, one addressing the closure with the town’s email address and the other for delivery companies with McGrail’s cell phone.

            The outside mailbox is being emptied hourly, and McGrail reported an email blast on March 23 letting residents know how they could access information. The town has waived fees associated with tax bills until April 10.

            A bill has passed, although the governor had not signed it at press time, giving towns the authority to postpone town meeting and local elections.

            “We’re behind the eight ball already,” said McGrail. “We’re not in a position to do anything (March 24), but we’re looking at pushing the town meeting and election out by 30 days if this continues.”

            McGrail’s main concern in advance of town meeting is Articles 2, 3 and 4 that deal with the town budget and two enterprise funds.

            The matter of public hearings remains unresolved, but according to McGrail they can be held anytime up until town meeting including the day of. He and Selectman Norm Hills were working together on bylaw-related changes, and McGrail said the town will make a decision on town meeting by April 7.

            Selectman Chairperson Randy Parker said, “We have to make a decision on how we’re going to run the town if we’re not going to have a town meeting,” citing the new situation yet to be defined.

            Waterman suggested that, although normal meetings may be back in early June, the town needs some mechanism whereby residents of age 70 with preexisting health conditions making them more vulnerable to coronavirus can meet remotely.

            “It’s not going to be a flip a switch and we go back to normal,” said Waterman, suggesting that Planning Board and Zoning Board of Appeals meetings could be held in a place like Sippican School auditorium, where attendees can be physically spaced out those vulnerable or sick could attend remotely.

            Parker suggested a scenario in which limitations on the town could circumvent legal limits on room capacity by holding town meeting on one room at Sippican School and divide attendees up among the classrooms with live video screens. Those making public comment could walk to the main room of the meeting to do so, then return to their classroom.

            “We have to think about a scenario,” he said, “to keep the town moving forward.”

            McGrail reported having participated on March 24 in the first of weekly conference calls with Lieutenant Governor Karyn Polito and several key state departments and organizations.

            A significant takeaway for McGrail was public hearings and deadlines with applications filed prior to the March 10 declaration of a state of emergency, all related statutory deadlines have been paused until the state of emergency is lifted. Then there will be a 45-day reprieve.

            The Foodbank at the Community Center continues to thrive. McGrail reported 80 cars on March 24. The method was altered so that food bags for families of four and two were lined up on a table and the people got out of their cars and picked it up off of a table.

            Marion is still seeking donations, but has been able to bring back 4,000 pounds of food per week from outside sources.

            “I can’t speak to whether it’s people who have financial issues… it may be people who are scared to go to the supermarket. I’ve heard from some people that are not financially challenged but are nervous,” said McGrail.

            Foodbank hours are from 1:00 to 3:00 pm on Tuesdays and Thursdays, with delivery on off-days. Food donations can be delivered to the Police Station, Fire Station No. 1 and the Community Center. For more information, call 508-748-3570.

            Waterman suggested a preliminary phone call with the Wastewater Management team for to establish a backup plan should staff become ill and licensing requirements. Hills reported a successful scenario when he worked for the town of Sandwich.

            On March 19, the Board of Selectmen held its first online-only meeting, at which McGrail reported having met for 60-90 minutes daily with Hills, Assistant Town Administrator Judy Mooney and Town Counsel Jon Witten, as the town navigates its way through the constantly changing COVID-19-related challenges.

            The meeting yielded news of a policy authored by McGrail and Town Counsel Jon Whitten and approved by the Board of Selectman and to be continued “until such time as deemed appropriate by the  Board of Selectmen” that states any current paid or volunteer member of Marion’s Police, Fire, Health or Building departments who contracts COVID-19 virus due to exposure while working for the town and is ordered by a licensed physician to quarantine her or himself will be entitled to a paid leave without accrual for the period of time of said quarantine as ordered by a licensed physician.

            Before the motion passed, Waterman asked how the policy applies to on-call firemen, suggested the policy be subject to review in 90 days, and also asked how the town can verify the facts of any such case.

            McGrail said an average of an on-call fireman’s pay over six months would form the basis of the coverage. He also noted that Marion has quarantine insurance for first responders.

            To ensure review, Parker suggested that discussion of the new policy be put on the Board of Selectman agenda every 90 days.

            “I think it should be subject to review over 90 days because this virus is going to be around for years,” said Waterman.

            The daily and sometimes hourly reevaluation that has become the new normal of town government reached a new level with the closure of Marion facilities on March 20.

            The status of the Town House was discussed, and Waterman said, should the town be able to resume something closer to normal operations after the 15-day schedule of rotating essential employees, it will be important to get up and running, albeit while maintaining social distancing practices.

            “Some towns have all their employees coming in… we’re trying to practice what we preach,” said McGrail, alluding to the concept of rotating staff so that people alternate based on managing certain tasks, be it the Building Department, clerks, Zoning, payroll. “The demand for a lot of things is going to slow down.”

            It was agreed that McGrail will reach out to Marion’s three regulatory boards and see if there is a compelling case to work with their chairpersons to set them up to live-stream public meetings. Public hearings are considered too complicated at the present time.

            “We need public participation in the hearings, otherwise it doesn’t make a lot of sense,” said Parker. “It doesn’t make sense to hold two meetings if you’re not going to go anywhere with the first one.”

            Waterman alluded to the memo from Governor Baker, who wants a chairman and administrative assistant present for public meetings and rest participating via remote access including citizens calling in.

            McGrail said it was “doable” on the town’s end and a matter of ORCTV’s capability to televise live.

            Parker cautioned that there be some clearinghouse to establish real citizens versus party crashers. “It’s going to take a little more work, but it would work,” he said, asking McGrail to check with town counsel to see if public participation by phone is legal.

            The Town of Marion deferred to Governor Baker’s declaration of a state of emergency and did not call its own, in contrast to Mattapoisett’s and Rochester’s respective decisions this week.

            McGrail drafted such a declaration for Marion, but said town counsel had advised him that there is no material advantage so the selectmen did not move to call a state of emergency for the town.

Marion Board of Selectmen

By Mick Colageo

New Pastor Reaches Out via Facebook Live

            Colby Olson was on his way to Lakeville on June 4 to watch his son Troy play a tennis match for Monomoy Regional High School against Apponequet in the MIAA Division 3 South team tournament when he detoured off of the highway and found himself driving on Route 105 through Rochester center.

            Olson spotted a white church building off the road and felt compelled to ask God to strengthen its people whom he had never met.

            “Then I drove on, and then my phone took me a completely different way and I went home,” he recalled.

            Little did Olson know several months later, he would become the new pastor at First Congregational Church.

            The email came last year while he was pastoring at South Chatham Community Church, a non-denominational Protestant Christian church he had been serving since 2011.

            “It was revitalization work. I felt that it was in a real healthy place,” said Olson.

            A devout, 45-year-old family man whose kids play sports and at times have been coached in baseball and/or soccer by their father, Olson built his ministry up and down the eastern seaboard by revitalizing and starting churches. When he was asked to interview for the job by First Congregational’s search committee, Olson requested to interview in person. Upon driving to the church, he realized it was the very one he had recently prayed for.

            The lengthy selection process culminated with a “candidating” weekend in which the congregation asked for 90 minutes to grill him with questions, personal and theological. His wife Joyce participated, he preached a sermon, and finally on January 4, he was voted in.

            South Chatham wanted Olson to stay longer and First Congregational “wanted me to not rush,” he recalled. Olson’s uncommonly smooth transition was made even smoother when his colleague, Adam Miller, took over the pastoral role at South Chatham.

            Olson’s career roadmap reads like that of a minor-league baseball coach.

            Before spending the last eight-plus years in South Chatham, he was in downtown Providence (where his car was totaled). Before that, he ministered to two churches in Gainesville, Florida, one of which he started, resulting in a documentary that led to outside interest in his services. In New York, he revitalized an existing ministry and, before that, had worked in Kentucky and Georgia.

            A native of nearby Halifax, Olson graduated from Silver Lake Regional High School and split his undergraduate studies between Becker College in Worcester and Asbury University, a Christian college in Kentucky where he studied applied communications. He did graduate study in Nyack, New York, at Alliance Theological Seminary, an evangelical institution affiliated with Nyack College and the Christian and Missionary Alliance. In 2003, he was ordained and commissioned under that banner.

            Freshly out of school, he participated in missions in El Salvador and Mexico, helping construct buildings for ministry and to clothe and feed the poor.

            Now Olson brings his own path of history to a church steeped in it.

            First Congregational is an independent church affiliated with the 65-year-old National Association of Congregational Christian Churches (NACCC) and, locally, the MACCC.

            Congregational churches overall date back to the 17th century, and a drive through any of New England’s rural areas discovers these churches and their white steeples against the scenic melding of fog and foliage. But each church has its own story, and Olson says he and First Congregational “hit it off” in their first introduction.

            Olson is aligned with the church’s conservative brand of orthodox Protestant Christian doctrine that is focused on daily reading of the Bible and his belief in personal salvation and transformation through the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus Christ. Though his specialty is revitalization, Olson believes his work at First Congregational will stand on the shoulders of those who came beforehand.

            “I think the church is at a great place,” he said. “They had an interim pastor who did some good work and set a good course. The church set a vision prior to my arrival.”

            Olson is eager to set that vision in motion.

            What COVID-19 aka coronavirus hasn’t allowed him to do in person he is doing with his computer and his telephone. Olson was supposed to deliver his first sermon on March 15, but wound up streaming his message via Facebook Live. He wasn’t looking for laughs when he said in his sermon, “If you have extra toilet paper, knock on a neighbor’s door and ask them if they need toilet paper,” but he is a person who seems to embrace a good laugh on himself.

            “I’m no better than anybody else. God’s working in my life,” he said.

            Olson’s immediate goals are to get his parishioners to know each other better and to enable them to share their testimony of what God has done in their lives.

            “We want to reach as many people as possible with the gospel and love on as many as we can,” he said.

            Estimating over 100 attendees on the average Sunday, he said, “We’re not a megachurch,” but the Olsons are loving on one more these past few weeks after welcoming Tate, a newborn boy, into the family.

            “It was amazing. I pulled his head out and caught him. A midwife allowed me to do that. It was the most moving, powerful and spiritual (moment) of my life,” said Olson, making sure to include the birth of his other children, 20-year-old Cecilia, 18-year-old Kelsey, and 16-year-old Troy.

            Joyce Olson is a licensed clinical social worker. After growing up on a farm in Mount Blanchard, Ohio, she attended The Ohio State University and Boston College. Now she has her own practice, Metamorphosis Counseling Services, in Dennis, specializing in trauma work and also offering Nouthetic-style (Christian-based) counseling.

            First Congregational’s website (rochestercongregational.com) has been updated with a more visitor-friendly look, and the church is hoping to get Olson’s sermons onto ORCTV. 

            Until then, he can be seen on Facebook Live at 10:00 am on Sundays.

By Mick Colageo

COA Outreach

Hello friends from COA Outreach,

            Liz and Corinne want you to know that we are both are safe and will be working from home for the time being, and turning our focus outward to you.  What do you need from us? How can we be in community together?  

            You can reach either of us by telephoning the Council on Aging (COA), 508-758-4110.  Leave a message for either of us and we will return your call.  We encourage our COA family to chat with either of us over the phone during this temporary and this needful time of separation, or “shutter-in place”.  You may also email us at outreachcoa@mattapoisett.net. 

            Please know that it can be a hard to fill the time, especially for single people who live alone or families without children.  Be sure to reach out to neighbors, friends, clergy, and family, when you want to visit with others.  Please call us at the COA when you have any questions or when you feel alone. 

            We at COA Outreach have a few suggestions that we hope you will find helpful during this new found time being at home: 

1. Call several people each day just to check in and have some human connection.

2. Spend some time outdoors, if you can.  Listen to the spring bird-songs.

3. Feed the birds, or offer leftover nuts or seeds to chipmunks and squirrels.  This is great for lowering blood pressure and relieving stress.

4. Start a small garden or container garden.  Simple herbs like lavender or lemon verbena will provide a lovely smell and can be used to make tea.

5. If you live with others, think about incorporating some silence into your new routine. It can be stressful to be with people all the time; recognize your own need for some quiet.

            Most of all take care of yourselves, and we look forward to hearing from you as we continue to live in this new reality together.

Mattapoisett Council on Aging Outreach

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Academic Achievements

The following Tri-Town residents have been named to second honors on the Clark University Dean’s List. This selection marks outstanding academic achievement during the fall 2019 semester.

-Maeve B. McEnroe of Marion

-Daniel A. Rorke of Marion

-Lily S. Youngberg of Mattapoisett

            To be eligible for second honors, students must have a grade point average of 3.5 or higher, of a maximum of 4.3 (all A+s).

Happy Trails to the Restless

            Tired of climbing the walls and waiting for an all-clear to the movies, restaurants and stores? No better time than the present to engage in a higher quality of life through what nature has right under our socially distanced noses.

            Take a walk.

            There are literally dozens of trails within a 20-minute drive in almost any direction away from or even along the shore.

            The Wanderer’s own Shawn Sweet, manager of the newspaper’s Facebook page and author of “Tri-Town Trek,” is an avid hiker and reports regularly on what’s going on in our natural habitat.

            Sweet, who sits on the Sippican Lands Trust Board and hikes anywhere from 10-15 miles with her husband primarily on weekends, advises proper clothing to avoid mosquito and tick bites, especially if hiking/walking vulnerable areas during vulnerable times of day.

            “I will say, although this time of year lends to mud and bugs, it’s also a great opportunity to explore,” she said. “The Spring Peepers are out and they are singing loud this year. Skunk cabbage is beginning to sprout. The ospreys are returning. 

            “I even caught a glimpse of a river otter swimming along the river at the Church’s Field property in Rochester… wish I had been quick enough with the camera.”

            In addition to East Over Reservation in Marion, Nasketucket Bay State Reservation in Mattapoisett and New Bedford Waterworks in Rochester, the three parks featured below, Sweet lists the following areas among her favorites: Aucoot Woods (White Eagle Parcel in Marion); Haskell Swamp Wildlife Area in Rochester; The Bogs in Mattapoisett; Brandt Island District in Mattapoisett; Osprey Marsh in Marion (a trail accessible to those with limited mobility and physical disabilities); and Great Hill on the Stone Estate in Marion. 

            From her many experiences, we picked three areas accordingly to accessibility inside each of the Tri-Town, Marion, Mattapoisett, and Rochester. The three selections are only the tip of a glorious iceberg and hopefully a portal through which the restless can find new pathways – no pun intended – to healthy living during precarious times.

East Over Reservation: Hales Brook and Sippican River Tracts

            Located at 285 County Road in Marion, the East Over Reservation is a 322-acre network that is owned by the Town of Marion and managed by The Trustees. The land crosses the town line into Rochester, where there is also an entry point. 

            The Marion entry point, accessible via a parking area off of County Road, leads to the Hales Brook and Sippican River Tracts. These well-marked tracts that wind their way through forests and along the Sippican River include 2 1/2 miles of trails and boardwalks.

            There are no facilities, but maps are posted on the trails. Not all East Over property has signage.

            A journey embarks on a boardwalk over a wetlands area and eventually to a choice between two right turns and a left.

            A right turn leads into a network of trails that go through the forest and reconnect; these trails include a rock slab bridge and rocky remnants of glaciers.

            A left turn leads to water views, first Hales Brook and then Sippican River. According to the Buzzards Bay Coalition website (savebuzzardsbay.org), The Trustees plan to extend this trail beyond the cranberry bogs into Rochester.

            East Over Reservation is home to wildlife on the ground and in the air, as hikers have seen deer, fox, mink, muskrat, and waterfowl.

            Visitors may bring their dogs and are asked to comply with local signage.

Nasketucket Bay State Reservation in Mattapoisett

            Nasketucket Bay State Reservation in Mattapoisett is owned and managed by Massachusetts Department of Conservation and Recreation (DCR) and accessible off of 94 Brandt Island Road. Five miles and 200 acres of coastal forests draw eager walkers along its trails through woods, meadows and salt marshes and ultimately to the rocky shores of Nasketucket Bay.

            According to alltrails.com, Nasketucket is an out-and-back trail appropriate for all skill levels and offering not only scenic views but beautiful wildflowers.

            It takes approximately 90 minutes to trace the Bridle, Salt Marsh and Holly trails. The Bridle Trail starts at the parking area, its grass circling through much of Nasketucket an inviting to bicycles and foot. Almost a mile long, the Shaw Farm Trail is accessible to the right and heads north to the Phoenix Bike Trail. Shaw Farm Trail is narrower than Bridle and takes the traveler out to Nasketucket Bay, its rocky shoreline and beach. A large rock marks the entry point to Holly Trail and a ticket back to Bridle Trail and the beginning point.

            Walkers can take their dogs and join with hikers or, depending on the season, horseback riders or cross-country skiers to spectacular views of Buzzards Bay and, to the west, West Island in Fairhaven.

            Many will access by car, but one can bike to the park off of the Mattapoisett Rail Trail. The Buzzards Bay Coalition’s new Shaw Farm Trail connects Nasketucket to the Phoenix Bike Trail in Fairhaven.

            Dogs must be kept on a leash.

New Bedford Waterworks in Rochester

            New Bedford Waterworks, covering 842 acres, is owned and managed by the City of New Bedford but is located and accessible from inside the Town of Rochester. Part of the protected Assawompset Pond Complex, New Bedford Waterworks protects an important public drinking-water supply for nearly 250,000 people in the region. Swimming and paddling are prohibited to protect the clean waters.

            On land, visitors ride bicycles and horses, or walk, ski or snowshoe, depending on the season, along the roads and wooded pathways. At the end of the trail, hikers enjoy a small beach and also fish.

            Trails are accessible from a parking North Rochester Congregational Church, located at 247 North Avenue. Roadside parking is allowed at any fire road entrance gate (R1-18) that is not marked “no admittance.” Please avoid block gates or fire lanes.

            To access the R10 gate to enter the Waterworks, walk the trail from the back of the church parking lot alongside North Avenue. At the gate begins Tinkogkukquas Trail, a sandy path that weaves its way for .7 miles into the woods to Great Quittacas Pond via Atuk Trail to the right and Namas Way to the left.

            Trails are marked at the entry point but not along the trails so a map is advised. Lakeville Town Clerk’s Office offers a map of the Assawompset Pond Complex for only $2.

            Dogs must be kept on a leash and on the paths.

            As with all public parks, remember no motored vehicles, please carry out what you carry in, and a final reminder to respect all signage indicating private property.

            For more information on the many trails in the region, link to “Tri-Town Trek” at wanderer.com and on our Facebook page.

By Mick Colageo

Notice to Rochester Residents

Effective Tuesday, March 17, 2020, the Town of Rochester has instituted several precautionary measures to prevent and mitigate the spread of COVID-19. As this situation remains very fluid, we will continue to monitor events and will notify the public of any additional actions should they be needed.

            •Town Hall and Annex offices will be closed to the public until further notice; however, staff will be available by telephone during normal business hours. Please call 508-763-3871 if you should need assistance.  

            The Tax collector can be reached at 508-763-3871 ext. 16.  

            •The Council on Aging building will be closed to the public and all programs and activities will be canceled until further notice; although meals distributed through the COA and medical transportation (for healthy seniors) will continue for the time being. Staff will still be available by telephone at 508-763-8723.

            •The Joseph H. Plumb Library will be closed until April 6. Staff will still be available during the hours of 10:00 am until 5:00 pm at 508-763-8600.  

            •Rochester Memorial School, Old Rochester Regional School, and Old Colony Regional Vocational Technical High School will be closed through April 7.  

            •Regarding meetings and public hearings held in public buildings; there are new protocols that will be distributed regarding the scheduling, holding, and attending of public meetings in order to promote social distancing and safe practices. They will be forthcoming in separate correspondence.

            •The Town is temporarily suspending all non-essential inspections or other activities where the employee is required to enter into a private residence or dwelling, with the exception of new construction where s/he is not entering occupied space. This does not apply to police or fire public safety services.

            These decisions were difficult ones as we understand that they will disrupt lives and operations, however, it is the right decision for the overall safety and well-being of our residents, staff, program participants, and committee and board members. They were made after significant review and discussions regarding all the information available locally, state-wide, nationally, and internationally. We will continue to consult on the latest data about this worldwide crisis so that we are prepared in the event we need to make further service disruption decisions.

            Thank you and stay well,

Suzanne Szyndlar, Rochester Town Administrator

Crystal L. Borden

Crystal L. Borden, 41, of Mattapoisett, unexpectedly passed away on Wednesday, March 18, 2020 at St. Luke’s Hospital. She was the companion of Michael Stevenson. Born in New Bedford, she was the daughter of the late Cheryl A. (Gosselin) White and the late Mark Borden.

            Survivors along with her companion include her 4 sons: Liam Stevenson, Logan Stevenson, Levi Stevenson and Lucas Stevenson; her paternal grandfather: Norman Borden; 2 aunts: Sandy Gosselin and Sharon Bentley; and an uncle: Louie Gosselin.

            Arrangements are private.

            In lieu of flowers, memorial donations to benefit her children may be made to Sandra Gosselin, 1163 N. Hixville Rd., Dartmouth, MA 02727.

Medicine Ma’s Way

            All the news regarding COVID-19 has brought back memories of my childhood illnesses, contagious diseases that were cared for and confined at home. Chickenpox, measles, mumps, scarlet fever, ear and throat infections, “the grippe” and seasonal fevers. Yes, I’ve suffered them all and survived, in no small part thanks to my mother’s nursing skills.

            At the first sign of emerging illness, the victim would be comfortably confined to the living room couch, which had been dressed with fresh sheets and a blanket. From this central vantage point, Ma would monitor the patient as she went about her other household duties. Cool compressions and fresh glasses of water were always at the ready with a heavy dose of “Don’t move!” She believed in full body rest.

            Stationed beside the water glass and thermometer would be a stack of coloring books and crayons and picture books to keep a young mind engaged and tamp down whining outbursts of, “I’m bored!”

            If whatever ailed her child wasn’t responding to oceans of clear fluids, aspirin tablets and/or a diet restricted to mashed bananas and toast, the family doctor would be called in for a second opinion.

            In the afternoon the doctor would make his rounds visiting homes with sick children. “What do we have here,” he’d say with a cheery tone meant to inspire trust. That didn’t always work, however. He’d check our temperature, feel our neck glands, confirm Ma’s diagnosis and basically tell her to keep up the good work. “Give it a couple more days,” and he’d hasten to the next patient in his district.

            Occasionally the doctor would have to return due to a secondary infection, something that seemed to happen to me throughout my early years. Ear and throat infections were roaring problems. The use of antibiotics had only recently been advanced as a possible cure. When those were administered, via injection, the relief a mere 24 hours later was amazing.

            All the while, Ma kept up her nursing routines. I wonder now when she slept.

            Bed baths including oral hygiene were strictly adhered to. She’d gently comb my hair, “That will make you feel better,” she’d murmur. With a clean face and hands, back rub with cooling alcohol and combed hair I did feel better. Ma was determined to return her children to health. It was both physical and spiritual healing.

            The tragedy my parents lived through with the passing of a baby boy two years before I was born never really left them. Dad never spoke of it until decades later when his mind began to recall only past events. Ma spoke about it often when I was a child.

            Ma talked about the horror of watching her infant slowly creep towards the end of what would be a very short stay in her arms. In 1948 surgery for congenital heart defects was unheard of. Her baby was removed from the home to die in a hospital room far from its mother’s screams. Ma really never stopped screaming for that baby or hearing its plaintive yelps. She’d tell me as she sat in her wheelchair after being admitted into nursing home care, “I hear a baby crying at night.”

            When I came along, a somewhat weak little infant born during a snowstorm, Ma’s maternal instincts kicked into high gear. This baby would live. Though my struggles were all minimal compared to those the baby boy had faced, Ma treated each event like a life-or-death struggle.

            My crib was placed next to the bed my parents shared. I know this because I was still sleeping beside them when I was about three or four years of age. Ma was taking no chances. I clearly remember standing up in the cot and looking at my sleeping parents. I must have made a sound because the next thing I remember was Ma nestling me between her and Dad. Her sweetly smelling, talcum-powdered skin and Dad’s earthy arms are forever imprinted in my memory.

            As the years went by, Ma made sure I didn’t scratch my body when chickenpox made my skin crawl. She chased away the high fever associated with measles with ice packs and aspirins. She made gallons of hot tea, trays of dry toast, mugs of bullion, cooling cubes of frozen orange juice. Ma watched with anxious expressions and nursed with conviction.

            When the crisis had passed, the war against disease once again a victory to be celebrated, she resumed her normal routines. The couch became just a couch, no longer ground zero on Ma’s war against illnesses.

            Years later when my own child would need the care and comfort only available from a diligent parent, I knew what to do. I had learned at the elbow of a master of practical nursing – Priscilla Lorraine Billard Newell.

This Mattapoisett Life

By Marilou Newell