Tri-Town: A Year in Headlines…

            Another year has passed and everything in Tri-Town – the streets, the houses, the historic landmarks, trees, and the residents – is another year older. On the personal level, our year ultimately unfolded in uniquely different ways from one another’s, making for a 2019 that is as individual as we each are.

            Then there is the collective year we share as a community – which, again, is unique to each of the three towns given how distinctively different Marion, Mattapoisett, and Rochester are from each other. But, as a Tri-Town, inextricably linked by its common history originating from the one Old Rochester, there is another level of a shared collective experience.

            At the end of every year, we review every edition of The Wanderer to revisit the last 12 months and recall the events that defined a year. Having said that, Tri-Town: behold your 2019…

Marion

            “Marion Designated as Green Community”: Marion entered the New Year a little greener and with $132,672 more in funds to pursue further energy-saving endeavors.

            “Developer Sues Over Solar Farm Denial”: The denial of a solar farm at 78 Wareham Road in 2018 came back to haunt the Planning Board for the first half of 2019 after solar developer ZPT Energy Solutions LLC filed a complaint with the Land Court.

            Marion’s solar bylaw gave no clear definition to the phrase “large-scale” when it comes to the clear-cutting of trees. ZPT’s argued the clear-cutting of 86 percent of the land did not constitute large-scale. That suit was later dropped, which segues us to our next headline:

            “Solar Farm denial Clears the Way for Second 40B”: Developer Ken Steen seized on the opportunity to take 78 Wareham Road and create a second 40B community in Marion, a project that is nearing completion in the state permitting process and is slated to enter the local permitting process in 2020.

            “Capital Project Faces Potential $1 Million Shortfall”: Marion faced some tough financial challenges this year: first with its engineer, CDM Smith, announcing a significant shortfall in the financing of the estimated $2.5 million wastewater lagoon project to the tune of $1,135,000. That estimated shortfall turned out to be way off once bids came in for the project. The lowest bid came in at $4,668,000, which was double CDM Smith’s shortfall estimate.

            To say the selectmen were displeased would be an understatement. During a February 19, the board signed a strongly-worded letter to the engineering firm, and then later went face to face with reps from CDM Smith with its displeasure while the engineers apologized.

            “Town Stuck with Failing Trash Truck”: For the first half of 2019, Marion scurried to find a solution to its curbside trash truck that seemed like it was always breaking down and costing the town tens of thousands in futile repairs. The town was faced with very few options as the certainty of the future of its regionalized trash district hung in limbo: keep slogging by with an aging truck, buy a new truck, or just pay someone else with their own trucks to haul the town’s trash away. Town Meeting voters opted for option 3, and eventually signed on with Waste Management. After a slow start, the social media outrage of residents finally seems to be dying down as we enter 2020.

            “Town Clerk Indicted on Criminal Larceny Charges”: After the Carver, Marion, Wareham Regional Refuse Disposal District filed a civil suit against its former executive director Ray Pickles, who also served as the town clerk until his resignation on September 3, it was only a matter of time before criminal charges followed. Pickles was indicted by a grand jury in March on six counts of Grand Larceny. Pickles pleaded ‘not guilty’.

            The sad end to Pickles’ ordeal comes with another headline in this edition of The Wanderer: “Indicted Refuse Director Ray Pickles Dies”.

            “TA Postpones Retirement as Finalists Drop Out”: He was supposed to be out of there by March 15, but Town Administrator Paul Dawson stuck it out long enough for the selectmen to appoint his successor after the two finalists both dropped out of the running right before their final interviews in March.

            Selectmen picked James “Jay” McGrail in April while Dawson assisted him until McGrail’s first official day on the job: the May 13 Annual Town Meeting.

            “Marion Moves to Dispose of Regional Trash District”: With a bleak future for the CMWRRDD, Marion started planning its ‘Mexit’ for 2020 by asking Special Town Meeting voters in October to allow that process to proceed. Voters agreed it was the right thing to do. Marion is in negotiations with the CMWRRDD over Mexit conditions.

            “Recreational Cannabis Proposal Presented”: Will this be the newest headline hot topic for Marion in 2020? A group of entrepreneurs attended the Board of Selectmen’s final meeting of 2019 with a proposal for a recreational adult-use marijuana dispensary at the site of the former Christie’s on Route 6.

Mattapoisett

            “Engineering Begins for New Fire House”: The Town chose its engineer in January to construct the new fire station and the associated work for the new site on Route 6 beside the police station. Voters approved a $9.25 million debt exclusion, and the town hopes to break ground in March of 2020.

            “Gagne Announces Retirement”: Town Administrator Michael Gagne announced on February 26 that he would be retiring on October 15, 2019. Unfortunately for Gagne, he’ll still be the Mattapoisett town administrator when the clock hits midnight on New Year’s Eve and into the second month of 2020, when the town will finally select his replacement.

            The first round of resumes proved unsuccessful for the search committee, which ultimately had to hire an experienced municipal recruiter to help the town secure some quality candidates, which leads us to our next headline:

            “Macallister Resigns, Applies for Town Administrator Job”: This one is pretty self-explanatory, although he, like everyone else, will have to go through the hiring process led by the same consultant that assisted Marion in its search for a new TA, Bernie Lynch.

            “Marijuana Cultivation Proposed for Mattapoisett”: Two business partners went before the Planning Board in March seeking to establish a marijuana growing facility on Industrial Drive. The business proposal included a clause for wholesale sales.

            The cultivation and commercial sale of recreational adult-use cannabis-containing products is prohibited in Mattapoisett, so Gagne stated that the bylaw would have to be amended. Voters at the May 13 Annual Town Meeting rejected an article to allow recreational marijuana, and then again rejected the notion during a Special Town Meeting on November 4 to allow the cultivation of recreational marijuana.

            “Groundbreaking Marks Start of Bike Path Project”: Dozens arrived at the end of Reservation Road on April 25 to witness the ceremonial groundbreaking of Phase 1B of the Mattapoisett Bike Path, which adds an additional 1.28 miles to the existing bike path.

            The headline “Solar Array Planned for Bowman Road” from the August 26 Conservation Commission meeting looked promising for solar developer NextGrid, LLC, especially after it received the commission’s approval to move forward. But after a Zoning Board of Appeals denial on November 21, the most current headline from December is “Solar Developer Sues Mattapoisett ZBA Over Denial”.

Rochester

            “Rumors Prompt Info Session on Pending 40R Housing”: Rochester started the year 2019 with a new word in its local lexicon: 40R.

            Referred to as a “friendly 40B,” resident concerns (and subsequent rumors) about an overwhelming influx in population led to a public info session on January 3, 2019, when public officials and citizens were introduced to developer Ken Steen and his plan for a 208-unit residential development on Cranberry Highway.

            The 40R is different from a 40B in that the town, in addition to being included in the planning process throughout permitting, is eligible to receive funding to reimburse the town for increasing demands on municipal services such as police and fire and schools.

            The development will include affordable housing, which will put Rochester above the state-mandated 10 percent affordable housing minimum, a deterrent for any potential 40B developments. 

            As 2019 came to a close, Steen presented his project to the Conservation Commission at its final meeting of the year, and he expects to officially file with the Planning Board within the first few weeks of 2020.

            “Solar to Replace Appealed Farmers Market Project”: Instead of a farmer’s market and café on a piece of Craig Canning’s massive swath of agricultural land on Marion Road, Rochester found itself having to welcome another solar farm into the neighborhood.

            A contentious appeal process with a resistant abutter cast a permanent shadow on Canning’s first project, prompting him to look to the sun to brighten his economic horizon.

            After many months, the 4-megawatt solar array farm received final approval before tearing the final page from the 2019 calendar.

            “’Prize Patrol’ Surprises Local Sweepstakes Winner”: 2019 was unforgettable for Rochester resident John Hall who experienced what we would all love to have happen to us one day – opening the door to a camera crew behind a smiling well-dressed man holding out a giant $50,000 check written in your name. Yes, it’s true – it does sometimes pay to enter into the Publisher’s Clearing House sweepstakes. Just ask John Hall!

            “Weigel Sworn-in as First Full-time Fore Chief”: Rochester continues to grow, which is why Fire Chief Scott Weigel officially went from part-time status to full-time on May 6. He was sworn-in by the town clerk during a Board of Selectmen meeting and then escorted off to celebrate with the sirens and lights of accompanying fire trucks.

            “Massive Solar Farms in Rochester Pipeline”: To the dismay of many Rochester residents, it looks like 2020 will be another productive year for solar energy proliferation.

            Planning Board Chairman Arnie Johnson explained on December 9 that 60 of 100 acres will be clear-cut to make way for a 10-megawatt solar farm, a project that is slated as number one of five that are in the works for 2020.

            The five large-scale solar farms will be almost completely contiguous across hundreds of acres spanning along Braley Hill Road from Tabor Lane to Featherbed Lane and all the way across to Snipatuit Road abutting Trailside Estates.

The Tri-Town

            “EEE Threat Incites Concern, Spraying“: The critical risk of Eastern Equine Encephalitis affected us all during the second half of the summer of 2019 and throughout the fall until that first major frost. The EEE threat canceled some of the highlighting annual summer events, such as the Marion Town Party and the evening events at the Rochester Country Fair, which was shortened considerably.

            The first human case of EEE was in Rochester in early August, which heightened the awareness and severity of the EEE situation for the Tri-Town, particularly.

            The EEE prognosis for 2020 isn’t looking any better, either, so we should expect some similar occurrences and upsets this summer – but hopefully without any further victims.

            “Selectmen Ready to Talk T.U.R.F.”: The T.U.R.F. ORR athletic field upgrade project conversation was reignited early in 2019, well ahead of the three town meetings. The project garnered minimal support from the finance committees, boards of selectmen, and town administrators from each of the towns, but a downscaled version of the project that included new stage lighting for the auditorium won the support of the town meeting voters in Marion, Mattapoisett, and Rochester. The prospect of the project coming to fruition seemed within reach when Mattapoisett and Marion voters at the polls threw their support behind the project; alas, Rochester voters rejected the project during their July 10 special election in a 575-689 vote.

            The superintendent for the four Tri-Town school districts announced that this would be his final school year before he retires in June of 2020. The school committees have united to get the process of finding a new superintendent going with a timeline that will hopefully result in a final candidate come March.

            “Tri-Town Teen Nicotine Withdrawal Prompts Concern”: Teen electronic cigarette use increased everywhere in the country, including in the Tri-Town. But when suspected vaping-induced lung diseases started to go up, Governor Charlie Baker responded by banning all e-cigarette and vaping products in the state. Marion Public Health Nurse Kathleen Downey sounded the alarm about teen nicotine withdrawal happening in the region after she said parents had started calling her with their own concerns about kids and nicotine withdrawal in light of the diminished supply of vape products.

            The e-cigarette ban persists into 2020, although some regulated THC-containing vape product sales have been allowed to resume.

By Jean Perry

ORRJH Students of the Month

Silas D. Coellner, Principal of Old Rochester Regional Junior High School, announces the following Students of the Month for November 2019:

            •Green Team: Cattarinha Nunes and Andrew Porter

            •Orange Team: Hanna Whalley and Felix Watt

            •Blue Team: Colton Churchill and Katherine McIlmail

            •Red Team: Patricia Spillane-Frates and Nicholas Huaco

            •Special Areas: Ella Charron and Nolan Bushnell

Young Players Lead OC Girls Basketball

Old Colony girls basketball is once again leaning on its youth.

            Three players. That’s all Old Colony varsity girls basketball has leftover from its 2018-19 team: Savanna HalleIsabel Souza, and senior captain Kat KirbyLauren McGowanHannah L’HeureuxLauren Patnaude, and Mackenzie Vieiraare all gone, leaving Old Colony coach Craig Lincoln to look to players from last year’s junior varsity team, as well as freshmen, to help carry the load.

            “We’ve always been young and small. No different this year,” he said. “We’re taking our early-season growing pains.”

            But Lincoln still has his captain, Kirby, who he can lean on. From the start, the senior has helped show Old Colony’s younger players how to approach things the right way.

            “She’s made the transition from a great volleyball season,” Lincoln said. “Like Savanna, she was at all the pre-season conditioning workouts and all that stuff and doing what she needs to do to lead the new group.”

            In the early going, Lincoln has turned to three freshmen. Hailey Hathawayand Olivia Perryare starting guards for the Cougars, while Allison Bumpusis making contributions off the bench.

            Through the first three games of the year, Hathaway has caught Old Colony’s opposition off guard. She leads the Cougars in scoring, averaging 17.3 points per game, while Halle is second (9.7), Kirby is third (7.3) and Souza is fourth (4.0).

            But all three freshmen still have plenty to learn. Luckily for the trio, Lincoln is used to working with freshmen at the varsity level.

            “As a coach, it’s about being patient and letting them understand how we run things within the program, and what’s expected at the high school level. How it’s a little different than playing youth basketball and AAU even is different from what we do,” Lincoln said. “So, getting them systematically ready for our program and letting them understand how we’re going to run things and how every day works. And it’s difficult sometimes because they’re used to doing things a certain way and we’re trying to break them into the Old Colony way.”

            And Lincoln has no doubt his new additions to the varsity squad, which also include Katherine Ashleyand Dakota Richard, will grow and understand the system, based on what he has seen to this point in the year.

            “I’m pleased with where we’re at so far in the season,” Lincoln said. “We’re just going to keep working. As long as they keep showing up with an open mind and great effort every day, we’ll be where I want by the end of the season.”

Tabor Academy

            Tabor Academy’s girls hockey took care of business at this year’s Taft tournament, surrendering only two goals in their four wins. Both goals came in the 6-2 win over the Taft school. The Seawolves also knocked off Phillips Andover academy 3-0, Coate Rosemary Hall 4-0 and Kent 2-0 in the final game of the tournament.

            Tabor remains undefeated at 8-0. They are off until January 11 when they host Williston Northhampton at Travis Roy Rink.

Old Rochester Regional

            Old Rochester Regional boys hockey dropped another tough game in their match-up against Bishop Stang. The Bulldogs, who co-op with Fairhaven, lost 6-0.

High School Sports Update

By Nick Friar

NBSO Presents All John Williams

On Saturday, January 11, the New Bedford Symphony Orchestra and Music Director Yaniv Dinur present All John Williams, a pops concert featuring the iconic music of one of the greatest film composers of our time. For over 60 years, the legendary John Williams has been writing unforgettable music for films such as Star Wars, E.T., Harry Potter, Jurassic Park, and so many more. The NBSO will celebrate his genius in a live performance of some of the most recognizable and popular pieces from his more than 100 film scores. 

            The concert will take place on January 11 at 7:30 pm in the Zeiterion Performing Arts Center in downtown New Bedford. Please join us before the performance for Music Director Yaniv Dinur’s pre-concert conversation at 6:30 pm in the Penler Space (adjoining The Z), free and open to the public. 

            Tickets are $10, $30, $55, $65 online at www.nbsymphony.org or through The Z box office, 508-994-2900; $5 tickets for children and students under age 22 are available at the box office. Convenient concert parking is available in the Z garage for a $4 cash fee. 

            The NBSO is a professional orchestra that annually presents a concert series of classical and pops music with internationally acclaimed guest artists, as well as an outstanding chamber music series. In addition, the NBSO’s innovative and nationally recognized educational programs reach 8,000 students each year. The NBSO is dedicated to building a community of music on the South Coast. Visit www.nbsymphony.org today!

Roseanne Pittsley

Roseanne Pittsley, 57 of Bourne formerly of Marion passed away on Monday December 16, 2019. Roseanne was born in Wareham the daughter of the late Robert and Rose Marie (Masterson), Pittsley, Sr. She was the loving companion of Stephen Lussier of Bourne.

            She attended the Old Rochester Regional School District. She also enjoyed music, cats, birds and gaming. Rosanne was never afraid to get her hands dirty and was always ready to help repair any car.

            She was the mother of Kevin Pittsley of East Wareham, Timothy Pittsley of Wareham and Travis Pittsley of Bourne. She was the sister of Robert Pittsley, Jr. of Maine, Russell Pittsley of Marion, Raymond Pittsley of Marion and Ramona Pittsley. She was the grandmother of Riley Pittsley and she was also survived by many loving nieces, nephews, relatives and friends.

            A celebration of her life will be held at later date to be announced. To leave a message of condolence for the family please visit www.warehamvillagefuneralhome.com Arrangements by Wareham Village Funeral Home 5 Center Street Wareham, MA 02571.

Ray Edwin Pickles

It is with deep sorrow that we announce the death of Ray Edwin Pickles, 86, of Marion, MA. Ray passed away on December 20, 2019 at home surrounded by his loving family. Born in Providence, Rhode Island December 18, 1933, son of the late Frank Pickles and Mildred Ray.

            Ray is survived by his loving wife, Diane Bondi-Pickles, loving children

Christopher (Margaret) Pickles; Justine (Nick Vardaro) Pickles; Leah Pickles, and granddaughter, Danika Vardaro. As well as his sister Lucille of St. Johnsbury, VT and late son Charles Arnold Ray Pickles. 

            During the Korean War Ray served in the US Army. He then graduated from Wentworth Institute of Technology in Boston with a degree in Civil Engineering. Ray went on to have a long career in public service including 28 years as the Town Administrator for the Town of Marion, MA. 

            Ray had a passion for life and he embraced it fully. Ray was an avid skier, enjoyed the thrill and speed of car racing, and loved open water diving. Ray enjoyed many years of competitive sailboat racing including five Marion to Bermuda races. He also loved ocean cruising with his family along the Atlantic Coast. He was a loving and dedicated husband, father and friend. 

            Family and Friends are invited to attend Ray’s Memorial Service at St. Gabriel’s Church on Saturday, January 11, 2020 at 11:00 AM.

Disney Princesses Perform Perfectly

Who doesn’t have a childhood memory that includes Cinderella and Snow White, two cornerstone characters from Walt Disney’s studios? The joy of watching as Prince Charming places the glass slipper on Cinderella’s tiny foot, or kissing the ruby lips of Snow White awakening her to live happily ever after – sigh – magical.

            And magical is the correct word to describe the Mattapoisett Public Library’s event that took place on December 21 when sweeping into the library came a glittering Princess Elsa and Anna. These two characters are from the hit franchise Frozen, which has produced millions and millions of devoted petite-sized fans.

            The event titled “A Snow Kingdom Party” began with a crafting segment where the children created crowns, or dragons, or both, under the guiding eyes of parents and library staff. Hostesses for the party were Children’s Librarian Heather Ripley and Head Children’s Librarian and Assistant Director Chris Matos. The Friends of the Mattapoisett Library sponsored the party.

            Soon, the princesses glided into the room to the delighted squeals of the children. Princess Elsa wore her well-known ice-blue gown resplendent with glistening silver embroidery, long platinum hair fashioned in a thick rope-like braid, and gentle gestures that suggested everything from snow falling to building a snowman named Olaf.

            Her sister, the feisty sweet-hearted high-energy Anna, wore traditionally styled Norse-like clothing, a comfy dress of green, blue, and red, embellished cape, and a cap that held down red hair tied in braids threatening to run free at any moment.

            The two are actors from the performance group “Pretty As A Princess”, who provide entertainment at party venues from birthdays to celebrations of life. Princess Elsa, aka Brenna Griswold, is a college student who has been performing as various Disney princesses for five years. Shauna Brodsky, aka Anna, is also a college student who has been a part of the cast for four years.

            The two princesses concurred that they receive much more than they give during events such as this.

            “It’s very important to us to give the children magic, especially in today’s world,” they agreed. And spreading their magic is never more important as when they are at the bedside of a child at Hasbro Hospital, a frequent venue for the performers.

            After reading a story to the children about their frozen kingdom adventures, the princesses then told the story of how their kingdom became trapped in perpetual winter, their romp through the frozen tundra, meeting trolls, of course, and a talking snowman before finally breaking the cold spell and finding true love. Well, it is Disney, after all…

             Throughout the hour-long show, the children were held in rapture as they watched the princesses sing and magically create an imaginary snowy kingdom. After, the children were invited to meet the princesses as parents took photos of their little ones hugging the charming ladies or sitting on their laps.

            Clearly, the event warmed the hearts of all in attendance and that included the moms and the dads. Many of the little girls had arrived dressed as their favorite princess or bringing along their Elsa or Anna dolls.

            As for the singing, the princesses’ trained voices were in perfect harmony as the children added their tiny voices, especially to the song ‘Let It Go’ – a song of liberation, empowerment, and, yes, a future that is still evolving.

By Marilou Newell

ConCom’s Christmas Wish Granted

Mattapoisett Conservation Commission Chairman Mike King got his wish on December 23: a short meeting.

            Stepping off at 6:30 pm, the three cases that were heard or reviewed sped along, allowing King to say what he claims are his favorite words: “I’ll take a motion to adjourn.”

            After a year that saw many meetings lasting hours and dealing with complicated technical matters, the commissioners were all pleased with an early holiday gift.

            Coming before the commission with a Request for Determination of Applicability was engineer David Davignon representing Constance Pallatroni Trust for property located on Sea Marsh Way.

            Davignon explained that the application requested permission to excavate test pits to determine whether the lot in question was a coastal dune and/or a barrier beach.

            King read from comments prepared by the Conservation Agent Elizabeth Leidhold, who advised ConCom that the Massachusetts Coastal Zone Management (CZM) agency might provide technical oversight at no cost. King said that, at this time, he saw no need for the applicant to engage a peer-review consultant, but that reaching out to Rebecca Haney of the CZM may be helpful.

            Davignon said that the client had engaged a coastal zone engineer; that engineer would be overseeing the digging of test pits and soil analysis. Davignon also said that he wanted to flush out all issues on behalf of the client, and that ultimately the plan is to secure permits for development of the lot.

            Davignon also brought forward a Notice of Intent application for James and Sharlene Craig for property noted as Lot 156 on Map 3 on Aucoot Road.

            Davignon said that the Massachusetts Department of Environmental Protection had not yet issued a file number, nor had comments been received from Massachusetts Natural Heritage and Endangered Species Program.

            Regarding the application, Davignon said that the selective cutting of trees and brush would determine the best location for the construction of a future home.

            “They want to find the best views,” said Davignon.

            The public hearing was continued until January 13.

            A Notice of Intent filed by David McIntire for the clearing of wooded areas within a buffer zone and various wetlands locations on his 0 Wolf Island Road property for the purpose of expanding agricultural activities was also continued until January 13.

            A DEP file number is pending.

            The public hearing was not officially opened, but a request by the applicant for a continuance was granted.

            A Certificate of Compliance was issued to Jeffrey Sanders, 8 Heritage Lane, for work never consummated.

            The next meeting of the Mattapoisett Conservation Commission is scheduled for January 13 at 6:30 pm in the Mattapoisett Town Hall conference room.

Mattapoisett Conservation Commission

By Marilou Newell

Call for Entries

The Marion Art Center announces a call for entries for its Winter Members’ Show. Any current MAC member is invited to participate and can submit up to three works for the exhibition. All art must be original – of the artist’s own design and creation – and prepared for installation. Drop off date for works is scheduled on Tuesday, January 7 from 10:00 am to 4:00 pm. The show runs from January 10through February 15, 2020. Please contact the Marion Art Center for more information at 508-748-1266.

The Christmas Closet

            Once upon a time, I used one of the tiny circa 1960 bedroom closets as a repository for Christmas gifts, gifts in waiting for that special day. I took such pleasure in shopping year-round for our five granddaughters. Sale hunting was my sport of choice. Capturing a prized possession: earrings, Barbie dolls, Legos, books on insects, pink lip gloss, and lacey tops, each item would be stowed away in the Christmas closet, waiting for its great unveiling in the future.

            In the meantime, there were the necessary tasks of industry and commerce – that ‘8 to 5’ job that fueled the Christmas closet. The job required some stateside travel. And while attending to the demands of my responsibilities to my employer and our customers, I scoured the periphery for bargains.

            Deep within the recesses of a hotel gift shop on a dusty shelf, I’d oftentimes find a gem. Smiling a perpetual grin, sitting there, longing to be found, would be a soft dolly or glittery purse. Art sets, books, obscure games, crafts – there was an amazing abundance of slow-moving marked-down merchandise just waiting for someone like me, a grandmother shopping for the mere pleasure of finding a special something for a special little girl.

            Secreting those items in my suitcase for the trip back home, I’d imagine how each grandchild would respond to a gift no one else would ever have thought to buy for her. I was fully aware that the fun was transitory; kids are fickle as a whole. It didn’t matter. My expendable income used to buy gifts for the girls turned the December holiday into a year-round joyful quest for me.

            By October of each year, while the girls were little, such a brief period of time reflection has proven, the closet shelves would be stuffed with stuff. When the girls weren’t around, I’d pull everything out and sort the items according to their recipients. I needed to make sure the bounty was evenly shared, and that the items were appropriate, given where the child was in her growth cycle. After all, the older girls wouldn’t appreciate a doll, and the younger ones didn’t need earrings. Opening that closet door for me was like watching each beloved girl open gifts over and over again.

            For those few years when the girls were young enough to want to spend time with us, we’d make a Christmas sleepover weekend as close to the actual holiday as possible. In a blended family, it’s important that time concessions be made. On the appointed Saturday morning, my husband and I would drive the multi-passenger Dodge van, the one equipped with built-in child seats, to pick-up the girls and begin what would be an exhausting – but fun – 24 hours.

            There were those two years in a row that we took the kids to Edaville Railroad. The girls loved the train ride through cranberry bogs and piney woodlands where Christmas lights depicted animals and elves and even Santa. In the main building, there was hot chocolate, popcorn, and games to play. Some of the girls eagerly choose to sit on Santa’s lap for a picture; some didn’t. I have those pictures and will one day will surrender them to each respective girl, now a woman. As they look at themselves in that long-ago moment, either smiling or suffering silently, will they think of me, of my husband? Giving children happy childhood memories is the gift that keeps on giving long after we are gone.

            Later that evening they would open gifts, delighting at what they found inside the wrappings. Then it was time to set up the air mattresses on the living room floor, put on a video, and watch as each girl attempted to settle down sufficiently to rest their sleepy heads – or not. They sometimes stayed awake until the wee hours.

            In the morning, their grandfather would make pancakes as I cleaned up the bedding and got the girls dressed for the day. After breakfast and before we returned them home, we’d take them on an outdoor adventure, weather permitting. Maybe a walk along the beach to collect shells and rocks, or a visit to that farm in Westport where they could feed the pigs and chickens. Sundays would wind down slowly. Then it would be time to give the children back to their parents, each kid weighted down with gifts and rocks in their pockets.

            Returning to our home, the house would be deathly quiet. And though I was bone tired, that quiet was not really welcomed. These are fleeting occasions. How many Christmas seasons were actually spent that way – maybe five consecutive years before the older ones preferred spending time with friends or felt that they were too mature to sleep on their grandparents’ floor. But they were golden years for us.

            Now when Christmas comes around, my husband and I relive those days; laugh at something remembered, how exhausted we’d been after a girls’ sleepover weekend – the smell of pancakes lingers still. We gave them so much more than what came out of the Christmas closet. We gave them each other. We gave them ourselves. We gave them happy memories.

            In the winter of our lives, my husband and I unwrap those memories again and again – joy by way of a synapse that is still functioning. And although the Christmas closet is now the overflow closet for my coats, whenever I reach for the doorknob, I hear their voices and feel an abundance of gratitude. Their lives are a gift. We knew that then and we surely know that now.

This Mattapoisett Life

By Marilou Newell