Rochester Council on Aging

Movies are shown every Friday at 1:30 pm. All are welcome and there is no charge. Join us. Movies are posted on our Facebook page. You can also give us a call to find out what’s playing. We usually know by Wednesday afternoon.

            Small Home Repair Financial Assistance Program: Financial assistance is available for Rochester residents who are 62 and over who meet certain financial criteria. If your home is in need of repair, and you need some financial assistance, please give us a call. We will help you determine if you qualify for this program. 

            AARP Sponsored Free Tax Preparation. The Rochester Senior Center is hosting AARP volunteers who will prepare taxes at no cost for all moderate-low income people with special consideration for those 60 and over. This service is offered every Wednesday until April 15th. Please call the Rochester Senior Center to schedule an appointment. 

Special Luncheons: 

            Monday, March 11at 12:00 pm. Irish luncheon with Irish entertainment. Come and celebrate St. Patrick’s Day at the Rochester Senior Center.

            Monday, March 18at 12:00 pm. Hanna’s Special Luncheon. Hanna & friends are preparing lunch at the Rochester Senior Center. All are welcome to attend, but please try and let us know that you are coming. Suggested anonymous donation of $5.00.

            Monday, March 25at 12:00 pm. Mike & Ann’s Special Luncheon. This is also our quarterly Birthday Luncheon. Come and join us for lunch and celebrate birthdays. All are welcome. Please let us know if you are coming. Suggested anonymous donation of $5.00.

            Pie on Pi Day. Thursday, March 14at 5:30 pm. Enjoy a delicious Chicken Pot Pie Dinner & salad with banana and chocolate cream pies for dessert. Tickets are $10.00 per person. This is a Friend’s of the Rochester Senior Center fundraising event. Thank you for your support.

            Manicures. Thursday, March 14starting at 9:30 am, Old Colony Technical High School students will be at the Rochester Senior Center to provide manicures. Call us for more information.

            Please contact us at the Senior Center at 508-763-8723 for more information or to make a reservation. Also, you can read the full monthly newsletter on our website www.rochestermaseniorcenter.com and follow us on Facebook www.facebook.com/rochestercoa. 

            Rides: We can provide transportation for Rochester residents. Please call to schedule a ride with one of our friendly drivers at least 24 hours in advance. 

            Rides to medical appointments in Boston and Providence: Medical transportation to Boston or Providence is available for $5.00 via a grant program made available by Coastline Services. Call 508-992-5978 at least 2 weeks in advance.

Youth Orchestras Spring Concert

On Sunday, March 17,the Southeastern Massachusetts Youth Orchestras (SEMAYO) will present their annual spring concert at 3pm in the Fireman Performing Arts Center at Tabor Academy. The concert will feature all the SEMAYO orchestras: Symphony Orchestra, Repertory Orchestra, Debut Orchestra, Preparatory Strings, and Poco Strings. Musical selections will include Lacrimosa (Mozart), Winter (Vivaldi), Sleeping Beauty Waltz (Tchaikovsky), and highlights from Wicked. Fireman Performing Arts Center is located at 235 Front Street, Marion, MA. Admission is $10 for adults, $5 for students and seniors.

            The Southeastern Massachusetts Youth Orchestra program was established in 2008 under the auspices of the New Bedford Symphony Orchestra. Formerly the NBSYO, the Southeastern Massachusetts Youth Orchestras bring together young musicians from across Southeastern Massachusetts to participate in an educational and artistic experience in a full orchestra setting.

Kathleen Marie O’Grady

Kathleen Marie O’Grady, age 87, died peacefully on Saturday, March 9 in Concord, Massachusetts.

            Kathleen is survived by her husband, Robert O’Grady of Concord, Massachusetts; her brother, Joseph Gallo of Lake George, New York and Lakewood Ranch, Florida; her five children, Daniel O’Grady and his wife Linda of Hudson, Ohio; Marianne O’Grady of Washington, DC.; Patrick O’Grady and his husband James Wheeler of Mattapoisett, Massachusetts; Joseph O’Grady and his wife Michelle of Middleton, Massachusetts; Catherine Clemente and her husband Rafael of Cambridge, Massachusetts; her eight grand children and one great grand child. Her son Christopher O’Grady who passed in 1994 predeceases her in death.

            Kathleen was born on November 8, 1931 in North Bergen, New Jersey, to parents Joseph Aloysius Gallo and Catherine Marie Reilly. She was a loving wife and mother to six beautiful children. Kathleen was a devout Catholic Christian, a Eucharistic Minister an active Cursillista and an avid volunteer in the community. After raising her six children, she spent much of her professional career as a physician recruiter at Emerson Hospital in Concord, Massachusetts for nearly twenty years.

            For Kathleen, family meant everything. She was a faithful and loving wife, the best Mother a child could ever wish for and a committed and devoted friend to all. Kathleen had one of the most magical and brilliant smiles you have ever seen. She could light up a room and fill your heart with her infectious personality. She had the most gentle and kind spirit and she affected everyone she met in the most positive and caring way.

            She was a caregiver, adopter, traditionalist, adventurer, lover of nature and it’s beauty and overall angel on this earth. She has left us now to join the rest of the angels, watching over us from heaven, in bliss and tranquility.

            Kathleen’s funeral mass is scheduled for Friday, March 15 at 11:00 am at Holy Family Parish, 12 Monument Square, Concord, Massachusetts with a reception to follow at the Colonial Inn, 48 Monument Square, Concord, Massachusetts. A wake will be held at Dees Funeral Home Thursday, March 14th from 4:00 pm – 7:00 pm, 27 Bedford Street, Concord, Massachusetts. All are welcome to attend and celebrate Kathleen’s life.

            In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in Kathleen’s name to the Edem foundation / edem2.org / RESOURCES@edem2.org / 508-395-4768 and AIDS Action / aac.org / jmanvi@fenwayhealth.org  / 617.450.1457.

Board Helps Applicant Find His ‘Hardship’

A resident wanting to build a large farm structure on his property got approval from the Rochester Zoning Board of Appeals on February 28, but first he had to come up with a reasonable “hardship,” one of the three requirements for a variance.

            Another thing the applicant needed was a “super majority” ZBA vote – meaning that the vote must be at least 4-1 to pass. But with only four board members present that evening, ZBA Chairman David Arancio gave Steven Sol of 108 Burgess Avenue the option to continue the public hearing because with only four members, Arancio pointed out, Sol needed a unanimous 3-0 for the variance.

            “Let’s go!” Sol replied.

            Sol needed a variance because the large farm structure he wants to build is planned within 78 feet on the abutting property line, but the bylaw requires a 100-foot setback. Furthermore, Sol wants to build it in his “front yard,” but, as he described it, the rear of his house actually faces the road and the front of the house faces old cranberry bogs.

            As for the setback, Sol owns that abutting property, and several others nearby. He also plans to shift the lot line in the future to add additional acreage to the 108 Burgess Avenue, which would eventually render the 100-foot setback variance moot. But that was later, not now.

            Sol argued that, since his main house and surrounding accessory buildings are about three-tenths of a mile from the road and not visible to the public, building the farm structure where he planned wouldn’t affect the neighborhood.

            “You can’t see nothing from the street,” said Sol.

            A couple of abutters wanted to know more information about the plan, but they soon discovered that they were mistaken over which house Sol owned. One other abutter attended simply to show support for the project.

            Arancio emphasized Sol’s need to satisfy the three variance circumstances – the hardship, conditions of the land that may limit the placement of the building, and not having a detrimental impact on the neighborhood. He asked Sol why he couldn’t build the building 101 feet from the lot line instead of 78, and Sol said it was because he still wanted to have access to drive through the two buildings “and keep them in line looking nice.”

            “I’m having a hard time looking at how the hardship is created with that,” said Arancio.

            “[It] makes more sense to do it the way I want to do it,” Sol said.

            Arancio said the board has been careful to ensure all applicants were given information on the three conditions that must be met for a variance.

            “Whether they own 80 acres or eight,” Arancio said, the board must be “fair to every applicant who comes before the ZBA.”

            The board seemed to want to help Sol find his hardship of sorts with ZBA member Kirby Gilmore asking Sol, “Any wetlands?” Sol said there weren’t any, and the conservation agent had already signed off on an old dry “upland” bog that is not considered wetlands.

            “You’re saying it’s all uplands?” Gilmore asked, seeming helpful. He continued, “If he put it somewhere else, it wouldn’t work for him. He has a farm to operate – that’s probably where I would put it.”

            “I think that I a hundred-percent agree that you’re in the culture of the town and the spirit of the town and it is to be embraced,” Arancio said, “but the rules still apply to anyone that’s been in the town for a month or a hundred years, and this is the process he knew when he applied…

            “The three criteria have to be met. If someone appeals … the decision, we have to be able to prove that he’s met the criteria for a variance. It’s a process: it’s not personal,” said Arancio.

            “It’s a hardship to me,” said Sol. “I like it better where I want to put it.”

            But ‘hardship’ is only one of the three conditions, Arancio reminded Sol. Still, Arancio acknowledged that only two of the 58 abutters notified attended the meeting, which demonstrates that not many view the proposal as a detriment to the neighborhood. Arancio then turned his attention to the existing farm structures on the land, the underground utilities, and the driveway location.

            “To move the building, you’re going to have a hardship [because] you’ve got to relocate the driveway?” Arancio asked.

            “And shape of the lot … kind of jogs out,” Gilmore added. “And that old cranberry bog … is still land and agriculture and if he … disturbs that land he may not be able to bring that land back into a cranberry bog.

            “That aids in satisfying the first criteria,” said Gilmore. “I was trying to get him to say that earlier.”

            “It does make sense to place the proposed building where it is and moving it away from those (utilities and limiting access between buildings),” said ZBA member Davis Sullivan, “I think that would justify the hardship.”

            “I don’t have any problems with this,” concluded Gilmore. “I think that there is some unique characteristics that Mr. Sol is not able to express regarding the first condition … but I am satisfied personally that that condition is met.”

            The variance was approved, with a special condition that the new structure be used for agricultural purposes only.

            The next meeting of the Rochester Zoning Board of Appeals is scheduled for March 14 at 7:00 pm at the Rochester Town Hall.

Rochester Zoning Board of Appeals

By Jean Perry

Rochester Women’s Club News

The Rochester Women’s Club would like to congratulate our 2018 scholarship winners, Madeline Scheub, Erin Taylor, and Courtney Vance. We are proud of your accomplishments. 

            This year the Rochester Women’s Club is adding a scholarship for students who are pursuing a career in nursing. This scholarship is funded in part by the late George Church. He donated a substantial amount of money to start the “Snookie Church” Memorial Scholarship for Nurses in honor of his wife Katherine Church. Katherine Hartley Church was well know for her service as an Army nurse and more known for her dedication to the town of Acushnet as a school and visiting nurse. Katherine, known as “Snookie” to most, was also a president of the Rochester Women’s Club for many years. 

            The Snookie Church Memorial Scholarship for Nurses and the Raymond T. Hartley Scholarship applications will be available at the guidance office of Old Rochester Regional High School, Old Colony Vocational High School, Bristol County Agricultural School, and Bishop Stang High School. Please contact us for an application if you are a high school graduating senior living in Rochester if you attend a school not listed above. Contact Marsha at 508-322-0998. There will be one “Snookie” scholarship and two Raymond T. Hartley Scholarships awarded.

            The Women’s Club Scholarships are $1,000.00. The money for these scholarships are dispersed to the recipients after the club receives transcripts from their first semester. 

            The Rochester Women’s Club meets the first Wednesday of the month at 12:00 pm. We always have a wonderful luncheon provided by a different member each month. We are located at 37 Marion Road in Rochester. This Women’s Club is open all women. You need not be a Rochester resident to join. We are currently planning to refurbish our meeting area. It will be available to rent for small gatherings, parties, showers, small weddings, and receptions. The Club House is a lovely venue and rent is very reasonable. For more information on rentals or meetings, contact Marsha at 508 322 0998.

Academic Achievements

Sienna E. Wurl of Mattapoisett has been named to the president’s list at Western New England University for the Fall 2018. Wurl is working toward a Pre-Pharmacy. Students are named to the President’s List for achieving a semester grade point average of 3.80 or higher.

            Allison L. Kvilhaug has been named to the dean’s list at Western New England University for the fall semester 2018. Kvilhaug is working toward a Bachelor of Science in Actuarial Science. Students are named to the dean’s list for achieving a semester grade point average of 3.30 or higher.

            The following Tri-Town students were named to the dean’s list at the University of Massachusetts Amherst for the fall 2018 semester. From Marion: Julia M. Barrett, Sophia Rose Cofone, Aibhlin Christine Fitzpatrick, Hannah Elizabeth Guard, Laura Mary-Elizabeth McCoy, Kylie Miller Patrick. From Mattapoisett: Samantha Lynn Ball, Megan McGregor Field, Kyra Calista Greco, Jordan McArdle, Jordan Kevin Menard, Jahn A. Pothier Jr., Jacob Spevack. From Rochester: Jennifer Nicole Aguiar, Alice Janina Bednarczyk, Erin Patricia Burke, Hunter Richard Cooney, Brianna Noris Grignetti, Caroline Reusch, Haily Saccone, Brooke Mary Santos, and Angela Jean Weigel. In order to qualify, an undergraduate student must receive a 3.5 grade-point average or better on a four-point scale.

Trevor Oldham of Mattapoisett was named to The Chancellors list for the fall of 2018 from The University of Massachusetts Dartmouth. To be eligible for this prestigious group, a 3.8 GPA or higher must be earned, demonstrating outstanding intellectual ability and exemplary dedication to learning.

Amabel Kilby Barrows

Amabel Kilby Barrows, age 98, died March 1, 2019 from complications of pneumonia at St. Luke’s Hospital in New Bedford, MA. She was the daughter of Helen Amabel Eshleman and Frank Mercur Eshleman of Milton, MA. She was the sister of the late Benjamin Franklin Eshleman and the late Elizabeth Barnett Brooks.

Amabel attended Milton Academy completing all twelve years. After graduating in 1938, she spent eight months modeling in Paris, ending abruptly to make the final crossing of the Normandiewhen France was threatened by Germany.

Amabel then worked as a draftsman in New York City during the war. In 1943 she married Elliot Ashwell Barrows, a navigator in the Army Air Force. They moved briefly to Monroe, LA. When Elliot went overseas to India, she moved back to Milton with her newborn baby for the duration of the war.

After living in Westwood, MA for several years, they moved to Wilton, CT where their three children were raised.  Amabel’s antique business of forty years started with tailgating at flea markets. Her many estate sales were well attended. After Elliot died, Amabel moved to Marion, MA in 2001.

Survivors include her three children, Amabel Kilby Allen (husband William) of Cumberland, RI, Madeline Ashwell Cooke of Marion, MA and William Dudley Barrows (wife Laurie) of Newbury, MA. She has six grandchildren, Sarah Allen Scoville, Katherine Amabel Allen; Elise Amabel Stokes, Jay Groverman Cooke; Annie Lucille Barrows and Lily Carver Barrows and five great grandchildren, Andrew, Lucy and Evelyn Scoville; and Patrick and Coletta Stokes.

A memorial service is planned for the spring in Marion on Saturday, May 11, 2019 at 11:00 a.m. at St. Gabriel’s Church, 124 Front Street, Marion.

Arrangements are by the Chapman, Cole & Gleason Funeral Home, 2599 Cranberry Hwy., Wareham.  For directions and online guestbook, visit: www.ccgfuneralhome.com. 

‘Mary Celeste’ Lounge Gets Approval to Open

Special Permit applicant Mike Achilles got his approval to open up the Mary Celeste Neighborhood Lounge at 149-151 Front Street, but it wasn’t a unanimous vote amongst Marion Planning Board members, and residents also remained divided on the issue.

            Achilles began his presentation on March 4 by reminding the board that he and his wife and their four children live a mere block away from the proposed location of the restaurant. The application for a special permit for a change of use of the former Book Stall property from retail to restaurant in the limited business district drew a large crowd to listen to the applicant’s review of the proposal.

            Achilles is also applying for a special permit for the reduction of the parking requirement for the business, which he asserts is a restaurant, in alignment with the Town’s bylaw definition of a restaurant, “a building … containing tables … for at least 2/3 of its legal capacity … used for the indoor sales and consumption of food prepared on the premises.”

            The capacity of the Mary Celeste is 50, with tables to accommodate 34 patrons.

            The public hearing moved quickly to comments from town residents, the first of whom was Kate Ross, owner of a restaurant located across from the proposed Mary Celeste. She reiterated her concerns about the parking issue, which she had expressed at the previous public hearings, adding, “If we do it for one, we should do it for everybody – if we bend the rules.”

            Responding to a concern raised at a previous hearing, Achilles informed the board that he had installed a noise monitoring system in the restaurant, which will alert him as well as the restaurant manager in real-time if the noise level goes above “reasonable levels,” which, Achilles assured the group, will be set very low.

            Later in the evening, Achilles described the decibel level testing he had performed recently at the restaurant. During the test, the noise levels inside the building with the doors closed registered at 110 decibels with a vacuum, table saw, and radio playing, whereas outside the building the decibel levels reached 45 decibels, equivalent to a “hummingbird in your ear,” he said.

            A number of residents had concerns about noise from the establishment, in particular members of the Sippican Woman’s Club, which has owned the building across Front Street since 1923.

            The Club expressed concern about their ability to retain tenants in the three apartments in the building.

            The Club’s property manager, Jeanne Bruen, suggested, “When someone is looking to rent, we want a desirable property.”

            The Club uses their income to provide scholarships in town, fund the library, and other philanthropic endeavors. When asked by Planning Board Chairman Will Saltonstall if the Club met all the needs of its organization with its off-street parking, Bruen noted that the tenants each have a spot, but, with 80 organization members, if there are larger events, the overflow goes to Island Wharf.

            “Like many village businesses,” Saltonstall said, “you may not be compliant [with the current parking requirements].”

            Sue Granger, a past president of the Club, also expressed concern about “the smoking of pot.” She said, “They could be quiet, but outside smoking pot, that’s not okay.” She mentioned that most of the businesses in the village are retail, with shoppers spending less than an hour at a time in the stores. The Mary Celeste, she surmised, would want people staying for two or more hours at a time.

            Achilles responded to this idea by saying that the idea behind the Mary Celeste is to provide a place for “people to get out of their house,” and, “it’s not a place to hang out all night.” He added that the parking issue, while a problem overall, would be mitigated by his business opening at a time when many other village businesses were closing.

            The current president of the Club, Mary Verni, stated, “[I have a] fiduciary responsibility. If we lose renters, can we make it a tavern? If we can’t rent to tenants, we lose our philanthropy. Our tenants are at-will. We have to think about our neighbors.”

            Dan Crete rose to speak in favor of the proposal, and, in response to the Woman’s Club’s concerns, he said he believed the lounge would be a great addition to the village, bringing a “more thriving, more friendly economy” to the village.

            “[it could] enhance your ability to rent your apartments,” said Crete, adding that, in his experience, the village absorbs parking very well. The Town’s Master Plan, he reminded the group, encourages more diverse thriving business in the village, concluding, “I whole-heartedly support this proposal.”

            Resident Peter Douglas suggested that the application for a special permit was the wrong approach to the parking issue. In a letter to the board, Douglas wrote, “The Planning Board should affirmatively make the disciplined effort to plan to resolve these issues,” rather than interpreting the bylaw on a case-by-case basis. He also argued that the Mary Celeste was not a restaurant, saying, “I know the difference. … Bars and lounges are modern and should be in Marion.” However, he suggested the town voters should make a bylaw change to allow those uses in town.

            Planning Board member Eileen Marum asserted that giving Achilles “a special deal paid for and supported [by the residents],” would equate to “subsidizing the Mary Celeste.” Ross’ restaurant, the Sippican Lands Trust, and other village businesses, she said, supply their own parking.

            “I’m not anti-business,” Marum said, “I’m just applying the bylaw as it stands.” 

            Saltonstall responded, “If the board can’t consider a special permit, we are saying no more businesses can come to Marion. I disagree the business is taking advantage of the public. No new business, with few exceptions, can provide their own parking.”

            Andrew Bonney supported Achilles, saying he understood the character of Marion, and that the Mary Celeste was “very consistent with the type of gathering place for the village.” Bonney continued, “[It’s] open to everyone; [it] does not require a membership.”

            Planning Board member Andrew Daniel reported that town counsel was of the opinion that the board could negotiate on and off-street parking within the special permitting process.

            Crete rose again to say that his business, like all the village businesses, uses Island Wharf heavily in the summer.

            “In a way,” Crete went on, “it is before the voters. We put you all in place [on the Planning Board], it is well within your authority. We all agree there is enough parking at Island Wharf.”

            Ross disagreed, saying that Marion is “mobbed in the summer.” She said, “The yacht club fills the streets, the wharf fills up. I don’t want to be the jerk saying don’t park in my lot. I’m all for a bar, let’s change the bylaw.”

            Ross leases parking spaces in an adjacent lot beside her restaurant for the exclusive use of her patrons.

            In an ironic twist, Daniel remarked that the testimony offered by the Sippican Woman’s Club supported Achilles’ application, saying that the village businesses “make it work” when they need additional parking beyond what the business can provide for its visitors, customers, and members.

            “If we held each business to the parking limit, we are done with economic growth. … Every business uses Island Wharf, the problem is with someone new using it. Part of the beauty of the village is the walk, the visit. I feel strongly the village will absorb the parking, especially with the hours of operation.”

            Achilles plans to open from 3:00 pm – 10:00 pm. 

            Planning Board member Steve Kokkins said that while the lounge description is quite appealing, “In my opinion, this is not a restaurant and will need to be addressed. I support the idea, and feel the bylaw needs to be changed to allow this kind of use.”

            Member Norm Hills suggested that anyone who would like to change the bylaw bring the idea to the bylaw codification committee, which is currently working on modifying the Town bylaws.

            Marum underscored the concerns of the Sippican Woman’s Club, revisiting the possibility of noise and raised the issue of safety of on-street parking.

            “A bar is not in our table of uses,” Marum stated.

            Member Chris Collings quipped, “What’s Gilda’s? If we want to split hairs … private spaces sometimes open to the public, sometimes not. … I don’t know what kind of island we want to stand on here to define a restaurant.”

            Saltonstall concurred, saying, “Personally, I think it is reasonable to define this as a restaurant.”

            Town Planner Gil Hilario added, “The floor plan shows many tables, not just a bar.”

            The board voted to approve the special permits to allow the change of use from retail to a restaurant and for a reduction in the parking requirements, with a vote of 5-2 on each, with members Kokkins and Marum dissenting. The board unanimously approved the minor site plan review, contingent on a final plan showing the location of the disability access ramp. 

            The next meeting of the Marion Planning Board is scheduled for March 18 at 7:00 pm at the Marion Town House.

Marion Planning Board

By Sarah French Storer

Food As Memory and Metaphor

She loved to eat. At supper time, she would often have second helpings of whatever remained in pots and pans littering the stovetop, eating directly from them with a joy not displayed over other activities. Simply put, food was her friend.

            Food replaced so many things her life did not provide, like a stable, happy, martial relationship and adoring children. Not that we didn’t love her. We did, each in our own way. But displays of adoration were muted all around. Food, however, never failed to satisfy her desires, wants, needs and so it became a vehicle, a device for expressing love.

            We never went out to eat. All meals were taken at home and all were made by her except breakfast. I’m speaking, of course, about my mother, a woman who rarely awakened before 10 o’clock in the morning. Regardless of when she did get out of bed, her mood was dark and didn’t lift until well after her first cup of coffee and plate of toast.

            Earlier in the morning, Dad would provide a breakfast of eggs cooked in inches of bacon fat, if you wanted that, and the smell of burning grease wafting through the house lingered. Hours later, the smell of toast and coffee signaled the real beginning of the day. Ma was up.

            Once she was up, dressed, and moving through her tiny domain, the schedule of events was under her control. Laundry, dusting, sweeping, shopping lists, planning the nightly meal; we were her minions acting out our roles as fetchers and laborers. My jobs were primarily grocery shopping and dish washing.

            Ma would carefully calculate down to the penny how much she would spend on a shopping list that contained the day’s provisions. She taught me, without ever leaving her house, how to find the price of items, how to check eggs for hidden breaks, how to read labels so the correct items could be sourced, and how to make sure the bread wasn’t crushed in the paper bag. I was probably around seven when the training began. Those lessons and early responsibilities should probably be credited with enhancing my ability to read well at an early age. Thanks, Ma.

            As I collected each item on the list, I would put a line through it so that if anything were missed, I’d notice that before the leaving the store and disappointing Ma with an incomplete job. Substitutions were not allowed. If I couldn’t find an item noted on the list, I’d report that in detail so she could decide if another selection was necessary. Doing the shopping was an important part of my day, one that I took very seriously. Pleasing my mother was the reward.

            Later that day, the smell of supper cooking was usually a very pleasant scent except on liver and onion day. What kid wants to face a plate sporting a slimy looking animal organ covered in equally slimy looking slices of onion? But making negative comments about the menu was never even considered. So great, would be the response. However, generally speaking, supper was a standout moment.

            Ma’s specialties were basic, filling, and flavorful. Although, if I’m being truly honest, many of the following dishes I wouldn’t eat today. But back in the day, they were thoroughly enjoyed.

            There was macaroni soup. Ma would take cans of stewed tomatoes into which slices of Velveeta cheese were melted to a smooth, thick broth. Into this she’d pour pre-cooked elbow macaroni. As she was preparing this delicious concoction, and if you were in her favor that day, she might saw off a piece of bright yellow-orange cheese-product to suck on until supper was ready.

            Cream chopped beef over mashed potatoes, roast pork with peeled potatoes soaking up the meat juices, American chop suey, and, in the summertime, BLTs with fresh beefsteak tomatoes and fruit salad with a dressing consisting of two ingredients – the juice from a can of fruit cocktail, and mayonnaise. Hopping John with lima beans, canned baked beans and brown bread with hot dogs, or frozen fish sticks and French fries were all greeted with eager appetites soon to be appeased.

            Simple meals. Filling meals. Delicious meals I remember to this day. There is a power in food and the manner in which it is prepared. Ma knew her job was to feed us, period. That she enjoyed food herself was to our advantage. I’d like to believe that seeing her family enjoying her cooking brought her joy. At least it was, for the most part, a gentle part of the day.

            Everything Ma did in the kitchen was purposeful and nothing was wasted. Leftovers were carefully stored for the next day in a refrigerator that gleamed inside and out. Food preparation areas, counters, and the kitchen table were washed down, and garbage removed. The moment she was done eating, the cleaning up began.

            We neither sat together at the table nor engaged in end-of-the-day banter. We ate and then we cleaned up. The food-memory lingers because it was everything our relationships were not – outwardly expressive, tender, and harmonious.

            For our birthdays, Ma always made a cake from Betty Crocker mixes. But the buttercream frosting, which was really made from oleomargarine, was from scratch – and to die for. Often the cakes were accompanied by Neapolitan ice cream, that strawberry, vanilla, chocolate combination that was sure to please everyone. I don’t recall any specific birthday parties, but the cake, at least, noted the day. As the mouthfuls of cake slathered with ice cream satisfied the taster, the soul received a balm. A gift onto itself.

            I have never successfully recreated macaroni soup or many of the other dishes my mother effortlessly pulled together on our behalf. And, letting honesty seep in again, that’s okay, I think. The memories, the food, her robust appetite, and those times when she seemed at peace are the joyful recollections I hold dear. She’d agree that her cooking wasn’t much, uncomplicated and featuring the latest in convenience cuisine. I’d like to believe that if she knew I remembered this much she’d be pleased. I’ll never know, and that’s okay.

This Mattapoisett Life

By Marilou Newell

Cushing Cemetery

Cushing Cemetery will be starting their spring cleanup in March. It would help us immensely if last year’s Christmas decorations were removed. Come March 15 they will start picking up all of the tree debris and Christmas decorations. There will be a trailer by the barn with trashcans. Please put biodegradable products only in the trailer. Plastics, glass, and other like products go into the barrels. Please, no doggy bags. Thank you for your help and cooperation.