Cynthia Babbitt Bryden

There will be a Memorial Service celebrating the life of Cynthia Babbitt Bryden at 11am on April 29, 2017 at the Congregational Church in Marion. A reception will follow the service.  Mrs. Bryden passed away at Sippican Long Term on November 5, 2016.

A Poetic Confluence

The public is invited to a free lecture by Peter Bergman, Director of the Berkshire Historical Society at Herman Melville’s farm Arrowhead in Pittsfield, MA. Bergman, Director of Communications & Community Relations will speak about the poetry of two uniquely American poets/authors at the Mattapoisett Free Public Library on Sunday, April 23, from 2:00 – 3:00 pm. Melville felt the pull and influence of the Berkshires from childhood on and his years at Arrowhead, his farm in Pittsfield, were among his most prolific. Edna St. Vincent Millay’s time at Steepletop, in nearby Austerlitz, NY, were strong and active years for her as well. A close examination points up some mystical connections between them: both led remarkably similar lives with extraordinarily similar careers. Learn about two of New England’s literary greats. A reception, sponsored by Friends of the Library, will follow the presentation.

The library is located at 7 Barstow Street and is handicapped accessible.

Equipment Fun Day for Kids

Marion Recreation will once again offer Kids Equipment Fun Day on Saturday, May 6 from 11:00 am to 2:00 pm at Washburn Park in Marion. Attendees will be able to take pictures, climb on, and sit in various trucks, tractors, and equipment. Fire trucks, ambulances, police cruisers, bulldozers, boats and more will all be on hand to get an up-close look at. New this year is Sensory Awareness Hour from 11:00 am to 12:00 noon. No sirens, horns or lights during this hour. Also, Marion Recreation will host a cookout in conjunction with this event with proceeds benefitting the Marion Fireworks Committee. For more information, visit www.marionrecreation.com or email info@marionrecreation.com.

Tabor Students ‘Unplug’

In the classrooms and hallways of Tabor Academy on Monday, amid the usual chaos of students moving back and forth from class, there was one thing noticeably missing – cellphones. For one school day, Tabor students had the opportunity to give up their phones and disconnect in Tabor’s first “Unplug Day.”

While not all technological devices were off limits, cellphones provide the most common and more luring distraction for students at Tabor and elsewhere. While laptops and similar devices allowed students the ability to get work done and check assignments on the online student portal, the lack of phones took away the temptation to incessantly check social media and text friends.

Although the day was entirely optional, several hundred students participated in the Unplug Day. Participants received some perks for “unplugging,” including ice cream sandwiches and a special “phone sleeping bag” for their devices after they completed the day unplugged. The biggest perk, however, was the fact that for every phone turned in for the day, money would be donated to the Special Olympics, an organization with which Tabor has been working closely over the past couple of years.

The idea started with Senior Class Dean Chris Millette, who approached senior Marion Wollach, “Because my pizzazz is incomparable,” joked Wollach. Wollach’s Senior Project, which she will complete alongside other seniors who are completing projects in the remaining weeks of the school year, is to design a new student lounge at Tabor.

“One of the ideas that I’ve been toying with is that the student lounge will have a no tech policy,” Wollach said.

Students had various reasons for unplugging, but a common trend was seen between the participants. The most people who unplugged came from the freshman class, and each class above them had less and less participants. From Wollach’s perspective, the freshmen were more impressionable and more caring than the seniors; however, she noted that the fact that freshmen are more connected to their technology made this trend intriguing. For all those that did unplug, there was an overall positive reaction to putting away the phones.

“I had a bunch of people, mostly teachers, email me saying that they really enjoyed it, that they felt calmer and elated,” said Wollach.

The Unplug Day was inspired in part by the National Day of Unplugging, which took place March 3 and 4 of this year. The day was organized by Reboot, a creative Jewish company. The National Day of Unplugging ran from sunset to sunset on these days, and participants also received the phone sleeping bag for their participation.

While this Unplug Day was the first of its kind at Tabor, it will likely not be the last.

“I hope it happens every year, because I think that next year when we do it, there’ll be more people, and each year that we do it there’ll be more people because it’s something you expect, something that people might look forward to,” said Wollach.

By Jack Gordon

 

Art of Egyptian Belly Dance

The Marion Art Center is pleased to announce its upcoming workshop, The Art of Egyptian Belly Dance, an introductory class to be held on Saturday, April 29 from 7:00 to 9:00 pm, with instructor Ellie Higgins. Known formally as Raqs Sharqi, this ancient art form for women is fun, exciting and suitable for all body types, ages and fitness levels. Participants will enjoy proper warm-up, stationary basic moves, then a mini show-and-tell about cane dance, zills (finger cymbals), simple veils & use of props, even learn a short combination! Instructor Ellie Higgins has practiced and performed Egyptian dance for 15 years. She is an AFAA-Certified Group Fitness Instructor who has taught daily Fusion Dance-Fit classes since 2008. Cost for the MAC’s two-hour workshop is $20 for MAC members and $25 for non-members. Participants should bring a water bottle and plan on dancing in bare feet or a ballet-type shoe. Hip scarves will be provided. Registration/payment is required to reserve a space. To register/pay, visit the Marion Art Center during regular gallery hours or call 508-748-1266.

Capital Planning Prioritizes Requests

As the clock ticks down to the Annual Town Meeting, municipal departments including local schools, natural resources, water and sewer, and police and fire are busy tweaking FY18 budgets.

To that end, the town’s Capital Planning Committee has met with department heads who presented their lists of needs for the upcoming fiscal year.

On March 29, CPC members Alan Apperson, Ellen Driscoll, Gerry Johnson, and Robert Ball met with Town Administrator Michael Gagne to discuss the list and rank the top 14 requested items.

Coming in at the top of the list was $40,000 for the construction of enhanced security at Center School.

Gagne said construction should have taken place during the week of February school vacation; however, cost estimates had been much higher than anticipated so the project was not done. Gagne surmised that the plan to complete the work in one week had been too aggressive and most likely would have incurred overtime expenses, pushing the estimate higher than expected. He said the plan now is to do the work once school has closed for the summer.

Number two on the list was $13,000 for new fire hoses. Gagne said this request was the third and final phase needed to bring the fire department hoses up to national safety standards.

Coming in number three was a packaged bundle of small necessities needed by various departments for items such as new office desks and chairs, file cabinets, and a copy machine. He noted that the copy machine used by the building department was nine years old.

Number four was $60,000 for roof repairs to Old Hammondtown School’s kitchen. While this sum had been voted on during the FY17 town meeting, during the special town meeting the monies were moved from that line item to school security upgrades, a more pressing issue, Gagne said.

And number five was $10,000 for software upgrades needed by the fire department. Gagne describe the technology as part of the GIS system. He said the department would be able to input data that will make responding to emergencies safer for the firefighters. Gagne said, “They can upload the location of burn permits and hazardous chemicals so that when a call comes in they will know what to expect at the scene.”

The remainder of the list was ranked as follows: $25,000 – local school floor tiles; $14,400 – ambulance infusion pump; $40,000 – Phase 3 highway barn updates; $91,000 – two new police cruises; $19,000 – police station window replacement; $70,000 – highway department truck replacement; $14,100 – highway department sander/spreader; $24,000 – COA replacement vehicle; and $13,000 – fire station roof repairs.

The list totals out at $474,050.

Regarding the Water and Sewer Enterprise Fund and its capital needs, Gagne reported that two line items are proposed to be funded via debt service: a water tank replacement on Jane Lane for $1.2 million and Fairhaven sewer line relining for $2.1 million. Other FY18 needs for the department are: $10,000 – GEO graphic system; $80,000 – backhoe/excavator; $30,000 – grinder pump repairs; and $30,000 – water well updates.

On the horizon for FY19 and beyond, the Capital Planning Committee will be asked to consider a new vehicle for natural resources, the replacement of roadway guardrails at various locations, upgrades to the building at the Holy Ghost grounds, sewer catch basin cleaner, and highway yard upgrades.

Members of the CPC are scheduled to meet with the Finance Committee to present their findings on Thursday, April 6, at 6:30 pm in the town hall conference room.

By Marilou Newell

 

Brazilian and Latin Musical Bouquet

Delightful Brazilian and Latin musical gems performed by one of Brazil’s great pianists, Maria José Carrasqueira, and Berklee professor, flutist Wendy Rolfe, will be presented in concert at the First Congregational Church of Marion on Saturday, April 22 at 4:00 pm.

Their program will include waltzes by Ernesto Nazareth, favorites by Tom Jobim and Heitor Villa-Lobos, and other selections evocative of Brazil and Latin America. Carrasqueira and Rolfe have performed together in Brazil, Peru, Ecuador, and the United States, and recorded the critically acclaimed CD “Images of Brazil” together.

Renowned as performer and professor, Brazilian pianist Maria José Carrasqueira pursues her career as a soloist, chamber musician, lecturer, and recitalist in Europe, Brazil, the United States, and Latin America. She is the recipient of three of the most important prizes for classical musicians in Brazil: The Carlos Gomes Award for Best Instrumental Soloist; the São Paulo Critics of Art Association Award for Best Recitalist of the Year; and the prestigious Sharp Music Award-for Best Classical CD Production. In 2005, her CD with works by Ernesto Nazareth was released by the French label Solstice in Europe and by YB in Brazil, receiving four stars from the French magazines Le Monde de La Musique and Diapason. She has been professor of piano at the Faculdade Santa Marcelina in São Paulo and the University of Campinas.

Wendy Rolfe is a leading performer on historical and modern flutes and is well-known as a musical ambassador throughout the Western Hemisphere and overseas. She has lectured, taught, and performed in Latin America as a Fulbright Program Senior Specialist in American Music and also toured the United States with a Solo Recitalist Grant from the National Endowment for the Arts, presenting her unique “A Journey Through Music History with the Flute.” Ms. Rolfe performs, records, and tours with the Handel and Haydn Society and Boston Baroque, and holds the piccolo chair with the Cape Symphony Orchestra. Toronto’s Tafelmusik Baroque Orchestra’s award-winning recordings of Beethoven symphonies recently concluded with his Ninth Symphony featuring Ms. Rolfe on piccolo. She is also heard on the soundtracks of the Disney/Touchstone film Casanova and the Ken Burns PBS special on Thomas Jefferson.

Tickets for the concert at $15 for adults and $10 for students are available at The Bookstall on Front Street in Marion and at the door. For more information and reservations, call the church office at 508-748-1053. The First Congregational Church, located at 28 Main Street at the corner of Front and Main in Marion, is handicapped accessible.

Drama Performance an Instant Hit

The ORRHS Drama Club’s production of Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat was like a party on stage every night that spread an infectious good mood throughout the packed auditorium. Filled with vibrant colors, catchy music, and an enthusiastic cast and crew, the show enraptured many members of the Tri-Town community. In fact, it was so popular that Friday night’s performance was sold out.

“I think the show went really well each night,” said John Roussell, who played Joseph. “Everyone worked really hard and knew their stuff, and I hope that the audience thoroughly enjoyed it.”

Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat follows the biblical character Joseph as his brothers sell him into slavery in response to Joseph being favored by their father and speaking of his dreams.

“Joseph lives in Canaan in the time of the Old Testament and has the ability to interpret what dreams show for the future,” Roussell added about his character.

While the show opened with a song sung by the local elementary school students who participate in the drama club, the rest of the show was narrated by the talented Sara Achorn and Elle Gendreau. The pair was onstage for nearly the entire two-hour performance, all of which was in song.

“My favorite song was when it cut back to the brothers in a French cafe (in the middle of the desert), and they are experiencing the harsh famine that has fallen over the land,” said Roussell. “I like it because the song is so over the top and ridiculous because everyone has a horrible French accent, and some of the notes they sing go on for minutes at a time.”

This piece seemed to be a hit with the crowd as well, especially with the improvised section that came not from a member of the cast, but from pit conductor Mike Barnicle. During one of the longer notes, Barnicle interrupts the actors to talk about himself and his infant son, comically forcing the singers to hold out their note for over a minute.

For the majority of those involved in drama, the finale was incredibly sentimental, especially during the last performance on Sunday. Being the spring show, this was the final production for the senior members, and the realization hit home for the entire cast and crew during the closing.

“My favorite has to be the ending song. It made me cry too much on the last show, especially because I felt like I was losing everything I stood for,” commented freshman Ryu Huynh-Aoyama, who played Joseph’s father Jacob.

As many attest, the group is like “one big family.”

“It’s a beautiful family,” Huynh-Aoyama said.

“Everyone is really nice and accepting, and it’s fun to hang out with all of them,” added crewmember Alexandra Nicolosi.

“My favorite part of drama was becoming close with people I was never really close with before,” said costumes crew member Ayana Hartley. “You create new bonds and you never want to let them go. I loved that.”

It isn’t just the members of drama who do not want to see their fellow classmates leave quite yet.

“I was impressed with how professional the play is,” said Ariane Uhlin, a member of the audience on one of the nights.

“They’re great actors,” commented Miyuki Dawson, another audience member. “The costumes are amazing.”

“The props, too; it’s all really impressive,” Uhlin added. “They have great voices; we’ve been checking if [the students] are seniors or not to see if there’s more time to see them in these plays.”

While many of the cast members will remain for at least another year, a good portion have had their final curtain call in the ORRHS auditorium, and what a play to go out with.

The following members of the high school drama club performed their final spring musical this past week: Sara Achorn, Katelyn Bindas, Callum Clapp, Olivia Correia, Garam Darwish, Libby Davis, Reese Donaldson, Griffin Dunn, Nick Ferreira, Colleen Garcia, Josh Garcia, Celeste Hartley, Camryn Kidney, Matthew Kiernan, Jonathan Kvilhaug, Abby Larkin, Hunter LaRochelle, Victoria MacLean, Dillon McCarthy, Jillian McCarthy, Davis Mathieu, Alexandra Nicolosi, Nicole Ochoa, Adam Perkins, Corynn Rinta, Mary Roussell, Lauren Valente, Maxx Wolski, Sienna Wurl and Riley Youngberg.

By Jo Caynon

Coalition Presents Revised Site Plan

The continued public hearing for the proposal by the Buzzards Bay Coalition for the field operations barn slated for the corner of Route 6 and Spring Street was the central discussion at the Marion Planning Board meeting on April 3.

Susan Nilson of CLE Engineering addressed the concerns and questions posed by the Planning Board and its consulting engineer, Ken Motta of Field Engineering.

Nilson began with an overview of the site, specifically the drainage basins, further described as wet swales, which will catch, retain and remove pollutants from stormwater runoff from the site. The wet swales will be planted with species of grasses, sedges, and other wetland plants that will help reduce pollutants in the water before it leaves the site.

“The controlling design factor,” as Nilson described it, “is an eight-inch pipe in an existing drainage easement for water leaving the site.” This pipe runs southerly across other private property and ultimately connects to a 12-inch pipe.

Nilson demonstrated to the board and concerned abutters who attended the meeting that the 100-year lateral flow from the site will be almost identical to the current flooding conditions. As Chairman Robert Lane noted, “Theoretically, there should be no change to the existing flooding conditions.”

Motta agreed, but cautioned the neighbors whose properties are part of the private drainage easement, stating “[The Buzzards Bay Coalition] is not putting any more water into the system, but if any fill on adjacent properties is placed in the easement, the flooding could change.”

Board member Jennifer Francis raised the issue of the grass pavers, which will be used at the site to minimize the use of impervious pavement. She remarked, “It looks to me like the drainage will be greatly improved with the grass pavers over the existing conditions on the site.”

Nilson also noted that both the Marion Fire and Building Departments signed off on the use of the grass pavers, as long as they are installed according to manufacturer’s specifications.

The discussion moved to the question of lighting the site. Board member Will Saltonstall indicated that the applicant and the board should be mindful of the impact of lighting on the surrounding homes, suggesting, “Lighting should be done well and not be a distraction to the neighborhood.”

Lane concurred, but pushed for lighting at the back of the building and along the southerly side for safety reasons.

Nilson said the building will have lights in the back and that the site is well lit due to the streetlights on Spring Street.

Although both Nilson and Motta noted that there will be a 1-foot wide gravel filter strip between the grass pavers and the southernmost wet swale, which would provide a visual and auditory warning to drivers, the board considered the area to be a safety risk and requested both lighting and a barrier be placed in this area.

Mark Rasmussen, president of the Buzzards Bay Coalition, agreed with the board’s request, asking that the barrier complement current design plans for the site.

“There are low stone walls along the front. Perhaps we could use a row of low bollards to keep people out of the swale?” The board concurred with that.

The discussion turned to the traffic accessing the site. Nilson stated that the site is designed for one-way traffic, specifically as it relates to the boat trailer owned by the Coalition. As demonstrated on the engineered site plan, the turning radius within the site is adequate for the truck and trailer.

Lane proposed the board approve the site plan in principal, and the final draft decision to be completed so that it reflects all that was agreed to this evening.

Rasmussen requested that the public hearing be closed so that the project could move forward, since contractors were hesitant to schedule work without official board approval. Lane declined to close the public hearing, for fear of having an issue with the action taken this evening that would need to be remedied, saying, “This would place the project in a greater bind than this two-week delay.”

In other business before the board, a request by Dan Crete for a one-year extension of a Site/Special Permit Approval by Saltworks Marine LLC located at 291 Wareham Street was approved without comment.

Francis, who has been developing the Transportation and Circulation Task Force, presented the names of the selected members to the board: Michelle Russell, Norm Hills, John Rockwell, Chris Bryant, Suzannah Davis, Jed Cornock, Kerry Saltonstall, Jonathan Howland, Mike Devoll, Heather Sylvia, and Diane Kelley.

Francis will initially represent the Planning Board on the task force until it is up and running. She remarked on the chosen members, saying, “We have a really excellent group with diverse knowledge and which has lived in town a long time.”

Lane will attend the Board of Selectmen’s meeting on April 18 to present the Planning Board’s request that BOS approval of remote attendance at meetings, which the BOS had approved on a one-year basis, be made permanent.

Due to the Monday holiday, the next meeting of the Marion Planning Board is scheduled for Tuesday, April 18 at 7:00 pm in the Marion Police Station Community Room at 550 Mill Street.

By Sarah French Storer

 

What NOT to Say to an Autism Parent

(and the uncensored responses parents wish they could say)

By Jean Perry

People really do mean well when they say to me, “You’re so … fill in the blank (amazing, strong, patient, loving)” about me as a mother. True, as a mother of a child with autism and a host of other minor conditions, there are a few other things that I might have to do and experience than a parent of a typically developing child. But I’m no magician. I’m not a super woman. I haven’t the patience of a saint. And all mothers ‘love’ their children.

It isn’t that I don’t appreciate when someone gives me a compliment. But as any other imperfect person doing this parenting thing, I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing for my child, right? “Jean, you’re an amazing mom.” I mean, if I looked at you while you shuttled one boy every night to hockey practice, while taxi-driving your daughter to ballet class, while whisking your toddler to the library for story time and then home to do laundry for three kids and cook and keep them alive, I might be like, “That’s insane!” But good for you!

There are some things we parents of an autistic child hear all the time and, admittedly, we sometimes get kind of tired of hearing. Questions we get tired of answering; comments that appear benign to the asker but make us shake our heads, dumbfounded. Feeling hurt. Wanting to say what’s really on our minds.

One of those is, “I don’t know how you do it.” (Big side eye look here). I might say something like, “Yeah, well, you know … we do what we’ve got to do in life…” but it’s through a cringing face, a grimacing mouth, because I still have not figured out a polite, yet assertive, way to express, “What, you mean, how could I possibly love my child with a disability? Care for him? Wait one full minute for him to button one button? Change diapers until age six? Why don’t I just hand him over to someone else to raise him because it’s something too burdensome for a mother to bear?”

I see it, too. I might be a little hypersensitive, overly defensive. Maybe just reading a little too much into what people say. But then someone asks me, “What do you think caused it?” (Eye roll).

Really, I have no idea what caused my son’s autism. But don’t think for a second that I didn’t spend the first three years of this ride wondering what cheese I might have eaten during pregnancy, what medication I might have swallowed, whether I didn’t get enough sunlight, or if my “healthy” bacteria versus “unhealthy” bacteria balance was off, and an avalanche of other possible things I might have done to cause my son to be autistic. Frankly, I don’t care what ‘caused’ it anymore.

And then there’s the “Oh, he’s not that bad.” Dude, I said he is autistic, I didn’t say he was bad. There isn’t anything bad about being autistic. He’s different, not bad. Jeez. It’s similar to the “Is he getting better?” question. Better? Better than what? Do you mean has he learned any new words, tried any new foods, learned to dress himself yet, stopped driving us all mad with incessant train noises, started acting more … normal?

As an autism parent, I am not exaggerating when I say that I, like any other autism parent, am constantly on my knees crawling through the autism trenches protecting my child and battling for him to help him find his rightful place in this world. I read everything autism. My social media feeds are crammed with autism-related pages, stories, blogs… My every day is autism information, 24-7. So when someone asks me, “Have you heard … blah blah blah … about autism?” Yeah. I heard. Like two years ago. And since then they’ve discovered that it’s not true. Thanks anyway.

Oh, yeah, and just because my son has autism, it doesn’t give him the right to get away with a whole bunch of stuff any typical kid wouldn’t get away with, either. “Oh, it’s OK. He can do that, it’s fine.” Um, my kid just ran his gross dirty finger across the top of your birthday cake. It is not OK. He needs to learn how to behave, how to act politely. He needs to know that sticking his finger, dirty or clean, across the frosting of someone else’s cake is NOT OK. Tell him, “NO! That is not OK!” Say, now you get no cake because I warned you three times to keep your hands off it! Feel free to discipline my child, because, while you’re not looking, you know I’m disciplining yours.

But there’s one big one that gets me every time. When I tell someone I have a child with autism and his or her response is, “I’m sorry.”

You’re … sorry? Why, did you invent autism? Did you sneak into my house, twirl your evil mustache, and cast a spell over my womb to give my child autism? You’re sorry, why, because I didn’t ‘deserve’ a child with a disability? Is autism a mistake nature made and you’re apologizing on behalf of it? Are you pitying me? Feeling sorry for me? Perhaps it is I who should feel sorry for you for not knowing, not understanding, not seeing the beauty in autism, the beauty in the individual that is my son.

I know. Harsh. Which is why I never say anything rude in response to any of this. Remember, these are uncensored responses. We all have our weak points and when somebody throws certain words at it, it hits you right in the soft spot. This is mine. My son is my soft spot. My sacred, sweet, soft spot.

“You’re so … fill in the blank (amazing, strong, loving).”

No I’m not. But he is. My son is the amazing, strong, and loving one. And if I am any of those things – amazing, strong, and loving – it’s because he makes me that way. He makes it so easy to be a good mother to him.

Please, don’t let all this inhibit you from saying anything to us at all! Most of the time we autism parents have some of the most developed senses of humor! If you want to ask questions about autism, we will always answer politely and to the best of our ability because we want you to understand what autism is, how it affects lives, and that as individuals there is a place for everyone in this world.

Having just said all that, if you ever want to say something nice to an autism parent, you could try something like, “You have a great kid” or “I can see why you’re so proud of him.” And if that doesn’t work, just ask if we want another refill on that glass of wine. I promise you that question will never get old.